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Date: 11/25/11 12:42 PM

We invited my husband's coworker and his new wife to join us for Thanksgiving this year. Along with praising my cooking, after dinner she told me to go take a pain pill and a nap, and she'd take care of dishes. What didn't fit into our apartment-model dishwasher, she did by hand. The only ones untouched still had food in them waiting for round 2 (dinner is usually between 1 and 2 PM).

While I thanked her when I woke up from my nap, I don't think it started to sink until I put up the leftovers last night ... and it was definitely obvious to me this morning as I did the final cleanup just how much that helped!

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Date: 11/25/11 12:45 PM

She was very kind. I must have missed something...why would you invite people over for dinner and have to end up taking a pain pill and a nap?

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Date: 11/25/11 1:15 PM

And what a nice host you are to accept assistance. Your guest was lovely to have been so observant.

I always feel a bit awkward to be ready to assist and to be firmly turned down. Oh well, everyone runs their kitchen and home differently. It's just that the cleanup time together provides such a relaxed way to visit and cut up a bit.

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Date: 11/25/11 1:29 PM

What a lovely surprise for you! She sounds like a keeper.

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Date: 11/25/11 2:04 PM

What a great story!

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Date: 11/26/11 0:45 AM

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And what a nice host you are to accept assistance. Your guest was lovely to have been so observant.

I always feel a bit awkward to be ready to assist and to be firmly turned down. Oh well, everyone runs their kitchen and home differently. It's just that the cleanup time together provides such a relaxed way to visit and cut up a bit.

I agree with you about this. We had a lot of fun helping with the cleanup and dishes yesterday after the wonderful meal to which we had been invited!

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Date: 11/26/11 9:55 AM

I've been telling my family for years that I'm not cooking the big turkey day meal any more because it's just exhausting at my stage of maturity. This year our daughter and son-in-law banned me from the kitchen after dinner and cleaned up the entire mess perfectly! It was so appreciated! Sometimes it really is the little things that mean so much!

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Date: 11/26/11 12:25 PM

I am thrilled for you. I personally belong in the "thank you for the offer, but I'd rather not have folks work in my kitchen" camp, unless it's drying dishes.

One Christmas dinner at my house ended in a nasty fight with my MIL because she insisted to do the dishes. We had already observed her becoming somewhat disorganized and shaky, and she herself commented on often she now dropped dishes. Anyway, I feared for my good china and for her ability to do the taks and declined. She accused us of making her feel like an outsider and not part of the family--it escalated into a very bad scene.
A few years later, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer, and in retrospect I think, her physical impairment, her confusion and her belligerence were among the first symptoms.

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Date: 11/26/11 4:42 PM

I'm totally jealous!

This year, I declared (ONCE AGAIN) that I am not going to cook Thanksgiving Dinner ever again. I am tired of no one helping out.

Although I am comfortable being in charge in the kitchen there is still a lot the guests can/should offer to do, like clearing the table and helping put food away. And I'd much rather turn someone away with a "thank you, but I'll take care of it, don't worry about it" than to end the day simmering with resentment because no one lifted a finger to help clean up after I cooked the entire Thanksgiving Dinner - every dish from scratch- by myself.

The worst was the year DH's family joined us. I had 30+ folks here. I had asked that everyone bring something to go with the meal since I was making the basic turkey and trimmings. One SIL brought a jug of iced tea - and her three strapping, grown sons. Another SIL brought a gelatin salad - and her SIX children. Not a single one of them, the sisters or their children, lifted one finger to help. DH's side of the family has not been invited back since, and he totally backs me up on that.

This year my niece and her family came from out of town without even telling me they were coming (I heard through the grapevine that they would be here) and then they showed up with a friend I had never met. None of them lifted a finger to help. And after dinner, my SIL stood in the kitchen talking nonstop - but not moving a muscle to help me - while I cleaned up everything. I AM OVER IT!

Sorry to vent, I didn't mean to rain on your nice story. It actually does make me glad to know there are people who are helpful and appreciate the efforts of their hostess.

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Date: 11/26/11 5:44 PM

lisalu,

Have you ever camped out or rented a nice little cabin for Thanksgiving? Smoked your turkey outside on a grill? Roasted marshmallows over a fire to go with your pumpkin pie? What do you think, should we come up with a hot caramel drink instead of hot chocolate to go with that pie? Something warm and relaxing for when you snuggle around the campfire with your family.........








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