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Date: 12/17/11 10:23 PM After behaving for a couple of Christmases (she's famous for dissing my gifts), she did it again.
She requested a gift card. We got her one from Sears, her favorite store. I hate doing giflt cards only, so I did something I thought was really cute and personal. She makes really good lemon pies, using lemons from her own trees. She is very proud of her pies. All of my Thanksgiving guests made a BIG deal over her pie, and she seemed to get a kick out of all the pie attention.
So, I embroidered a slice of lemon meringue pie on a tea towel, and put *Carrie's Kitchen* on there too. It came out really really nice. When she opened it, I told her it was in honor of her famous pie. That's when she made the ugly face and slammed it back into the box, right in front of me. Not a word of thanks - just looked away. She looked quite angry as a matter of fact.
The gift card was sitting on top of the towel in a very large holder that was really nice - holographic fireplace and all that. I realized she'd tossed the card aside without looking at it. So a few minutes later, I asked her if she saw that there was a gift card in there, and she said she didn't notice. So I showed it to her, and she said oh she didn't know what it was. Whatever. Still, no thanks or anything.
I made sure that I thanked her profusely for the socks. She could have given me a box of rocks and I'd have thanked her.
I know we've all been through this with hand made gifts, and have discussed this ad nauseum, but I swear I'm done with her. Next year she gets nothing but whatever card DH buys for her.
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Date: 12/17/11 10:30 PM What a rude cow your MIL is. ------
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Date: 12/17/11 10:36 PM yes your MIL behavior is very rude & mean in my book...
I have had many similar experience...this year they asked for Pepper so that is what they will be receiving. -- Next year just give her an empty card & maybe mail it! ......
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Date: 12/17/11 10:44 PM so sad.....I don't understand that behavior....maybe in time she will change her mind. ------
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Date: 12/17/11 10:55 PM I'm sorry she behaved so badly. Not surprised, but sorry that you had to deal with her.
Some people seem to live to make other people unhappy. There is nothing you can do to change such people, you either have to put up with them and try to see them as little as possible, or simply cut the ties completely.
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Date: 12/17/11 11:09 PM Good lord, what a bitchy thing to do! It must be maddening for you. I wish you a better day tomorrow, marec ------
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Date: 12/17/11 11:18 PM She is a ery rude person.
I would say from now DH mother so DH gets toremember brithdays, Xmsa etc and you make stuff for people who appreciate it. ------
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Date: 12/17/11 11:48 PM Your husband needs to get her the gift from now on. If he does not get one...she won't get anything and that will be a good thing! My MIL was so nasty I completely withdrew from the relationship. DH had to do it all. He understood and did not want to deal with her either. I had a "rule" with her. Do not engage. She was totally written out of my script. If I HAD to talk to her or be near her I became kind of a "stick" person. No emotions, no conversation which I initiated. It actually worked. She had no buttons to push anymore. Fortunately she lived far away.
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Date: 12/18/11 0:05 AM I had an MIL like that. Keyword: had  She's not my problem anymore!
Ya just never knew whether it was going to be a toss the gift across the room to someone "here, do you want this, take it, I'll never use/wear it", or gushy coy little girlish baby talk thanking you. After she waited until after everyone else opened their gifts so she could be the center of attention.
Did it bother me? Drive me mad? No. I don't take it personally if someone doesn't like a gift, I figure we all have different taste and getting it just right can be hit or miss. In fact, I sort of found it amusing when she behaved like this. Without my having to say a negative or unkind word about her she made lasting impressions on her grandchildren. They've formed their own opinions about her all on their very own. Well, with her help of course   |
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Date: 12/18/11 0:22 AM What Lena said. My MIL, rest her soul, was sweet about everything she received. She was also very generous.
My mother, on the other hand, can sometimes act as if she has no clue what the gift was for. She is difficult to please on many levels.  |
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