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Date: 1/5/12 7:22 PM

I am faced with liquidating an estate and wondered what other people do with old framed photographs and pictures that meant something to the deceased but that no family members want to keep? its hard to just toss em! i just wondered if anyone else has had this problem and what you did?? i'm guessing just removed from the frames and hang on to them for awhile? Has this been difficult for anyone else?

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Date: 1/5/12 7:24 PM

any local historical societies that might be interested? I gave some unwanted items to one (after checking to make sure they would like to have them).

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Subject: If youve ever dismantled an estate Date: 1/5/12 7:48 PM

You could scan them and save them on a disk, in case someone wants them in the future...

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Date: 1/5/12 7:58 PM

I'm the last person to ask... I have a framed photo of my great-grandmother (which I do want, but I have no idea where to put it) and also a framed photo of one of my grandmother's brothers. Again, no idea where to hang this, and I don't really know much about him, so it would be weird to have a big photo of him hanging in the house. Both these photos are in my back storage room.

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Date: 1/5/12 8:23 PM


Does anyone in the family really want the pictures? If not, the historical society idea sounds good. When we closed out my husband's parents' estate, I asked each of his (4) siblings if they wanted the pictures. Each said "yes, but not now". I saved all of the pictures so that the siblings could get them later. That was 5 years ago. The pictures are still in my house. The brothers and sister still want them but "not now". To me this means they don't really want to be be bothered. We'll be downsizing soon so I don't know what will happen then. My husband has selected those pictures which matter to him. So far as I'm concerned, if the others really want them they'll have to make a move soon. I can't take them with me to a tiny appartment.
When we closed out my parents' estate, my sister and I each took those pictures which mattered to us. We took them right away. The rest went to my niece because she was willing to store them. I simply can't do it.
Sorry if I'm ranting. This is sort of a sore spot with me. I just can't understand not taking at least one picture...

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Date: 1/5/12 8:24 PM

On American Pickers they bought a very old framed picture of a couple. No one in the family wanted it. The guys paid $50 (?) for it and said sometimes people like to put up old photos if it goes with their decor. Sometimes the frame is what people want. I'd give it a try and put it up for sale. If you don't have any takers, then offer it to a museum.

Years ago my dad and I went through a big stack of old wedding photos. As my dad didn't remember who any of the people were, we wound up pitching them. I felt bad doing that, but we couldn't think of anything else to do with them and we had limited time.

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Date: 1/5/12 8:28 PM

I have become the family keeper of the photos. My FIL died earlier this year. My MIL died four years ago and my DH closed up the house. When i went through the photos after my MIl died I noticed my handwriting on the back of many of the older photos I had labeled them with who was in each photo.


After my father died my mother closed up her house,. i ended up with the photos of the great grandparents. They are huge. But they are up in my hallway. I'm so glad I have them.

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Date: 1/5/12 8:54 PM

sewfrequent,

Are they photos from your family? If so, I would keep them as well as scan them. If your storage space makes keeping the frame impossible, I would at least take the photos out of the frame.

Someone else's family? Try very hard to get them into the hands of someone in that family.

Circumstances have made me the keeper of the photos quite a bit sooner than I expected. I scan here and there. Eventually, I'll finish and send copies out to everyone and when the next generation sets up their own homes, I'll send copies to them also.

Best wishes.
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Date: 1/5/12 9:07 PM

Sorry folks, I took out this post. I must have had double serving of rude for dinner the day I posted it.

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Date: 1/5/12 10:18 PM

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And, what's wrong with those people anyway? They have a responsibility to maintain the history for their children and grandchildren.


Well, I don't think there is anything wrong with them. I didn't get a sentimental gene or bone...I hardly consider it a defect. My responsibility to the future generations is to send them toward the future, not drag them back into the past.

I wonder about all the time and money that many of my Mommy friends put into scrapbooks for their children. Somebody will eventually get stuck with an acid-free archival quality photo book of people they don't care about.

This issue came up at the family holiday feast. An aunt brought the baby crib, her wedding dress and some other things to give to .....yeah, nobody wanted them. It was very thoughtful of her to give the family members a chance to claim any bit of history they wanted. But, there is also nothing sad about dropping it all off at Goodwill.
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