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Message Board > Fitting Woes > WHY can't I just give up?? ( Moderated by CarolynGM, Deepika)

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Date: 1/27/12 0:42 AM

This week I am organizing my sewing corner/closet, including going thru all my stashes. I have SO MANY UFOs that I have muslined, didn't like, but somehow cannot bear to get rid of.

I keep thinking things like 'I could add a zipper', 'I could add ties', 'I could raise the armscye'- nevermind that the top looks like a potato sack, I hate zippers, and I really need skirts, not tops. ITS A WADDER! Why can't I wad it up and throw it away?

I keep convincing myself that somehow, someday, I'm going to need that exact pattern/fabric. That it will be great on someone else. That I will need scraps to stuff a toy with. That I will be inspired and alter it. Etcetera.

I do not sew for many other people. I do not have kids. I do not make stuffed animals.

I have named 2012 the Year of Culling. What do you all tell yourselves when you just need to give up on something and throw it out?

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 1:20 AM

It's not easy. I kept hoarding UFOs because I felt guilty about not finishing them, or about wasting stuff, or something like that. It was rather unclear. Eventually I gave myself permission to throw out UFOs and any other clutter, and now I can do it with a clear conscience. The key was that I gave myself *permission* to decide that a project was a failure, would never be finished, and could be thrown out.

Once I started decluttering, it got much easier. Now I know that an uncluttered house means an uncluttered mind, and it's much easier to throw things out.

Perhaps this will help you:

I, Juliette2, hereby give you, Idahodogs, official permission to throw out all UFOs and any other clutter.

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 1:52 AM

I choose to embrace the evil. I imagine wearing a black hat and laughing bwahahaha! as I destroy the innocent fabric thingies. Or whatever I'm decluttering.

Seriously. Telling yourself that it's inevitable, it's the right thing to do, blah, is never totally and utterly convincing. So go for the evil.

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 1:55 AM

I only allow myself 2 banker's boxes of UFOs. If the lid does not close, I must go through it and jettison something. It took a lot of angst and whining to get down to that few but it is worth it.
You can do it!
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Date: 1/27/12 2:23 AM

We are all in the same boat....one that is sinking due to being piled full of UFO's. What gives?I do the same thingLately, I've been better and am chucking those babies right out to the Goodwill....Stuff that can't be sold goes to Mexico.

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 5:38 AM

If something makes me feel bad every time I see it, it goes in the bin. Life is too short to make myself miserable for no reason at all.

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Date: 1/27/12 7:48 AM

Goodwill also takes just scrap. It gets shredded and turned into something useful.
If its not big enough to make at least two pocket linings, its not big enough for anything. Pitch it.

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 7:53 AM

It is hard to start tossing things, but incredibly liberating. Just throw them out and enjoy a clutter free home

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Subject: WHY cant I just give up?? Date: 1/27/12 8:00 AM

Whether it is sewing stuff or something somewhat sentimental that has no use except to take up space and/or gather dust, letting it go is/can be incredibly liberating. You are lightening the load so that you can move on to whatever is next unencumbered (or at least with a little less baggage).

I have been sitting still on decluttering my sewing and scrapbooking stuff (not to mention other stuff), having "hit a wall". Suddenly it is now the end of January already ~ today I am forcing myself to begin anew. Once you get started, it is easier to keep at it.

Go for it & enjoy the sense of freedom you will be feeling soon!

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Date: 1/27/12 12:04 PM

Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

I made a compromise with myself this morning - I will keep the so-so patterns (with notes), but toss the UFO fabric. I may try some of the patterns again when my skills and fabric selection gets better - or they may lose their shine sitting in a box for a year or so

Evil poly fabric is IN THE BIN!!

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