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Message Board > Miscellaneous > Women Going Stag ( Moderated by Deepika, EleanorSews, CynthiaSue)

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Date: 4/6/12 8:01 PM

I'm from the generation that believes a woman alone is suspect. I decided, at the last minute, to see a play. Since it was the last minute, I didn't try to get anyone to go with me. Yet, I am a little reluctant to go by myself. I don't mind going to see a movie by myself, I'm used to going to restaurants alone, but I feel a little strange about going to this play. I feel like the spotlight will be on me, not on the stage, although I know no one will even notice.

How to you feel about attending events alone. Are there some things you will not do unless you have a friend or a date to tag along? I'm curious.
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Date: 4/6/12 8:44 PM

This is something that I'm starting to explore myself right now. And it's new for me. I'm finding it awkward even though I don't want to. So I'd love any suggestions on how not to feel self conscious.

It's odd. Intellectually, I don't see anything wrong with going out and doing the things you want to - whether you've got company or you're by yourself. But when it comes down to doing it myself, it's more challenging.

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Date: 4/6/12 9:32 PM

Going stag. Wow that's not a term I've heard in a while. I travel for work and many times I'm on my own. I get bored from time to time. That's why there's text messaging and if you have a data plan you can come visit us on PR. And I like to think of it as an opportunity to chat with someone new.

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Date: 4/6/12 10:40 PM

My mil was horrified when I went on an overseas trip by myself, leaving both dh and kids behind. She truly could not understand a woman travelling alone.

Go, enjoy the play.

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Date: 4/7/12 0:03 AM

I look at it this way--I think a person who's attending an event solo is there not out of obligation or for a date, but purely to enjoy the experience. I find those people interesting and appealing.

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Date: 4/7/12 0:34 AM

I would have absolutely no problem going by myself and would probably not notice somebody else doing something solo. And if I did, it wouldn't be with any negative thoughts. It is nice to have a companion to talk about things with, but I've done quite a bit of travelling by myself and often enjoy not having to take anybody else's preferences into consideration.

My sister, free spirit that she is, travelled by herself in Turkey. That would have been 25-30 years ago. She has some interesting stories, mostly great ones.

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Date: 4/7/12 1:19 AM

I'm stuck going solo - most of my friends are married or too far away. I'll go to lots of things but generally not musicals, rock concerts or restaurants where I need a reservation. Ball games, free concerts, festivals, travel, movies, what the heck, I still go. I really don't think there's a problem at the symphony or the opera, but then I'm usually up in the balcony, not going to some opening night gala thing. Last time was fun, I got into a conversation with the couple next to me before the music started.
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Date: 4/7/12 3:50 AM

I had to do it by myself for a number of years, and really, if it's certain things I still will have to because my DH and I have different interests or hope my mother is well enough to go with me.

I find it hard to make friends in general, so it's never been much of an option. I go and have fun and do my own thing. I've met a lot of interesting people over the years doing that, the last one was a gentleman from Russia that I had one heck of a historical conversation with over the Romanov family.

If you feel uncomfortable, then it may not be fun for you, but there is a lot of things going stag makes a lot more interesting.

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Date: 4/7/12 6:31 AM

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I decided, at the last minute, to see a play. Since it was the last minute, I didn't try to get anyone to go with me.

I'm very happy to go to a play on my own, as well as music concerts, the cinema & restaurants. I see many other on-their-own women when I attend these venues & really think it's quite acceptable. It did take a couple of times to feel comfortable. I'd rather go alone than not go at all.
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Date: 4/7/12 7:07 AM

I did do it a lot, attending things on my own. Holiday, movies, plays etc. I was single for 10 years so either I did not get to do things I love or had to do them on my own. I chose to seek out things I love and met one of my best friends that way.

Only the first time is awkward. I have found that often you get to meet more people when you are on your own than when with another person It seems when there is two you do focus on the other.

These days it is less as DH and I have very many of the same interests and love spending time together as both of us travel frequently for work. While away for work we do do a lot on our own though come to think of it

Seriously, why would you deny yourself something you enjoy, just because you do not have a companion to join? How knows you may end up meeting new friends like I did.

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