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Message Board > Miscellaneous > ambivalent about knitting--long ( Moderated by Deepika, EleanorSews, CynthiaSue)

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Date: 4/17/12 7:25 PM

First some background--I taught myself to knit in February 2009 in order to be able to knit this owls sweater. After I achieved it, I just quit. It was hard to learn to knit, but I preservered and worked my way up to it. However, after accomplishing that goal, I lost my steam.

Now, three years later, I have found another sweater I want to knit--this lovely Paper Dolls Sweater.


I have been teaching myself fair isle knitting, and it is going well. I am knitting a fair isle hat in order to practice for this sweater. Well, I just made a mistake and I am having to un-knit a row. I just want to quit. I guess I really don't enjoy the process as much as I love the finished product. On the other hand, I have never felt this way about sewing (my primary hobby). I love everything about it. Even when I have to rip out a seam (several times) I don't feel like just quitting. Well, there was one time, before I learned to fit myself, that I thought about quitting, but that was just out of frustration. Once I learned to fit myself, I have been really enjoying it. I would actually rather make my clothes than buy them. I would rather make a dress similar to one I like than to go out an buy the dress (even if buying it were a little cheaper). However, if I could just find a similar paper dolls sweater to buy, I would get it and not worry about knitting it.

Do you think that deep down inside I just really don't like to knit? I kind of wish the answer was yes so that I could just quit. However, I want this sweater so badly. At the same time, I think that it would be very grown up of me and mature (I am 41 ) to just put knitting aside, accept I will never have this sweater if I quit knitting, and just be thankful for all the nice things I do have. Anyone got any thoughts? Thanks for listening (errrr... reading)

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Date: 4/17/12 7:52 PM

I'm one of those people who feels like life is too short to force yourself to do optional activities you don't enjoy because you think you "should". Although I'd advise anyone who seemed to hate knitting to at least become proficient before deciding to give it up (anything is more fun when you're good at it and confident in your skills) it seems that you have already knit a sweater and therefore have done enough knitting to be pretty sure its just not your thing.

BUT....

How badly do you want that sweater? Its funny to me, because I love to knit and it doesn't really matter what it is. I have a whole closet full of sweaters I rarely wear. So I knit items to give away mostly - and the same thing also applies to sewing. To me its not really a means to an end but rather I just love the process. Someone I barely know is having a baby? Great! Good "excuse" for me to knit!

If you feel that way about sewing then you knew exactly what I mean. If you don't feel that way about knitting, then you have my ah-hem..."permission" to pay someone else to knit that sweater for you.

This isn't too different from the folks from my running group who HATE running but force themselves to do it because they "should". To that I say, phooey. Go do something you love - biking, swimming, tennis, Zumba, whatever. I don't think you get points for forcing yourself to run when you hate every step - I just think you're wasting time better spent doing something you really do love.

Bottom line: if your desire for that sweater outweighs your dislike of knitting, then go for it and ENJOY that sweater when you're done. Possibly you will love knitting by then but if not then move on...

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Date: 4/17/12 11:44 PM

One thing I have discovered from this community is that most of us are either process people or project people. I am a process person - I lose interest in the project when the needlework is done. I have always finished the clothes I was making (sewing, knitting or crocheting), but otherwise, I mostly have stacks of needlepoint canvases, cross-stitching, etc.

Maybe for knitting you are a project person. At 41 you do not have to answer to anyone else about how you spend your time. If you really want that cute doll sweater and you can stand to knit it, then tell yourself you will make this particular sweater and then not knit again unless or until you find another sweater you really want. You don't have to knit again if you don't want to. Not everyone likes to knit.

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Date: 4/17/12 11:53 PM

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Do you think that deep down inside I just really don't like to knit?

Yes, I think you just really do not like to knit, and that is perfectly okay. I do not like or enjoy making clothes, but that is the majority of my sewing because it gets me what I want, need, and fits better than RTW. Quilting and machine embroidery are much more fun, but I do less of that. I don't like to cook, but I have to in order to eat every day. Necessity rules. It is what it is, and that's okay.
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Date: 4/17/12 11:56 PM

I think at 41 you know yourself well enough to know what you like and what you don't. It seems pretty obvious to me that you don't like knitting. You like a really nice, cute sweater, but why do you have to make it yourself? The simple answer is that you don't. And I'll bet you can still have that sweater, too. Just get someone to make it for you... if not on here, go to Etsy and find someone you can PAY to make it for you. Then you have the sweater and no reason for you to waste precious sewing time by knitting.

Hope that's permission enough :-)

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Date: 4/18/12 0:43 AM

I love a beautifully knit sweater and cherish several that my mother made for me. But I will start with this. None of us has time to fully pursue everything that we are capable of learning to do well. Practically speaking, I'd suggest that you set the knitting aside until or unless it calls you. Many members with a few more years can tell you that you will have times later when you will appreciate having a portable craft. No need to make yourself miserable now with something you will be relieved to utilize later.

You do an awesome job of going after fantastic clothing. Treat yourself to a commissioned sweater; or, barter for it. If you negotiate an exchange, do not discount the amount of time you put into precisely sourcing your materials and notions. Your Easter outfit, by the way, is amazing. As are all your dresses that I saw.

Maybe your subconscious is telling you what I see in the pictures and you may be too modest to see in the mirror. Your sweater is beautiful and you look great. But flip that around when you wear your sewn creations. You are beautiful and your clothes look great! I see you when I see the pictures of you in those dresses. I suspect if I looked at every picture of you in each of your sewn creations that I would feel that I know you.

And, come on, your beautiful sweater doesn't look like it does much for your legs. I only looked at one of your 2012 archives, but it tells the whole story. Your subconscious knows what is best for you. I suspect that when you put on those lovely dresses and slip into your carefully chosen shoes that your energy level actually accelerates.

You get an amazing return on your investment when you sew. The proof is in the pictures. Believe it and make use of the information.

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Date: 4/18/12 7:27 AM

Finish the hat first and then decide. I knit great, BUT I was never able to produce a nice Fair Isle. Fair Isle knitting really is a talent, and if the finished hat proves you can do it, make that sweater: it's absolutely adorable.

When you finish the sweater, you can decide if you ever want to again.

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Date: 4/18/12 8:02 AM

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I think at 41 you know yourself well enough to know what you like and what you don't. It seems pretty obvious to me that you don't like knitting. You like a really nice, cute sweater, but why do you have to make it yourself? The simple answer is that you don't. And I'll bet you can still have that sweater, too. Just get someone to make it for you... if not on here, go to Etsy and find someone you can PAY to make it for you. Then you have the sweater and no reason for you to waste precious sewing time by knitting.



Hope that's permission enough :-)

Do you know of any Etsy shops that do custom knitting? That is a great suggestion.
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Date: 4/18/12 8:06 AM

pm me if you are interested in custom knitting

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Date: 4/18/12 10:54 AM

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pm me if you are interested in custom knitting

lisalu,
I am not a paying PR member so I don't think I can PM you. Will you PM me and I will respond? Thank you so much.
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