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Date: 1/8/13 2:07 PM

For years now, I have not worn tops tucked in, or belts, and have worn loose clothes to "hide" my large-waisted shape. But I'm starting to think that I would look better if I wore at least some of my clothes more fitted at the waist so I don't look like a barrel with a head on top.

I also find tucked-in tops much, much more comfortable with trousers and jeans. It would be nice to wear button-front blouses again. I feel like I've been limited to T-shirts because woven blouses always crease at the waist when you wear them out.

My waist IS smaller than my bust and hips, just not by that much. I'm also very short waisted. I don't have a lot of flab -- I'm essentially the same size and shape I've always been, not bad for age 55.

What do you all think? Will I be on the run from the fashion police? (They probably already have a warrant out for my arrest anyway.) Could we start a new trend here on PR?

Today I'm at work wearing trousers with my T-shirt tucked in -- so comfortable.

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Date: 1/8/13 2:18 PM

Im an hourglass and so have avoided anything smocklike or stright up n down. But i want a pretty 1920s frock, so i'm making one regardless.

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Date: 1/8/13 2:22 PM

You sound like you are built like me - except for the flab, I DO have a lot of it. blech

Anyway, tucking in, to me, works if (and only if) the waistband of the skirt or pants is a good one. Fits well (too loose is almost as bad as too tight), doesn't roll, crumple, or pull. I started wearing "outside" tops for that very reason - the waistbands look nasty. Which draws attention to my waist and makes it look even larger. A slightly lower waistband helps (at least for me), as do the shaped ones.

The crease at the waist (on a woven blouse) is expected, and no one believes that you should stop and iron every time you leave the room. One way around it is to wear a belt over the blouse (making it more of a tunic). Since you are short-waisted like me, the RTW blouses are probably close to tunic length anyway. I actually have a (woven) tunic that is essentially a button front, fitted blouse - and it came with a 3" wide belt. The darker belt (black, the tunic is about 50/50 black and white) actually helps shape the waist visually. With blousy tops, there would be more volume above and below - and therefore more of an hourglass than a barrel.

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Date: 1/8/13 2:23 PM

This may sound goofy, but it is true...you look your best when you feel your best. If you feel better with your shirt tucked in, wear it that way. Someone always takes the position of fashion police, so who cares? I'd rather be comfortable and able to smile than constantly readjusting my clothes and worrying if a part of me isn't "covered" enough for someone else's taste.

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Date: 1/8/13 4:57 PM

I mentioned this in an earlier post, but...... I saw a show called "What not to wear." They go through a persons wardrobe and tell you what's bad and what's ok. Then send the person on a shopping trip to buy a new wardrobe!!! The episode I saw featured Tiffany - (she was a teen one hit wonder in the eighties with "I think we're alone now") She is now very full figured to on the heavy side. They said wearing shapeless large garments were not a good way to cover a heavy frame. The idea is to show some definition between the waist and your arm - "Showing you have some sort of a waist". They were right!!!! When she came out in more fitted items at the waist and tucked shirts she was really cute!!! My problem is I am short waisted on top have a long crotch and insanely long legs. I look abnormal with tops tucked in. I would love to see what they had to say to me on that show!!! Not to mention where would they send me to shop since the longest RTW is about 4-5" too short in the inseam for me!!!

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Date: 1/8/13 5:21 PM

My way of dealing with a nasty, crumpled waistband, when I used to wear stuff tucked in all the time, was to wear a belt or a long scarf threaded through the belt loops.

I don't have any belts anymore -- need to get or make some.

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Date: 1/8/13 5:25 PM

See, I'm wondering why we can't be the shape we are without so much shame. What's wrong with you having a short waist and super long legs? What's wrong with me having a big waist? What are we measuring ourselves against?

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Date: 1/8/13 5:34 PM

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See, I'm wondering why we can't be the shape we are without so much shame. What's wrong with you having a short waist and super long legs? What's wrong with me having a big waist? What are we measuring ourselves against?

Harriet, this reminded me of one of my favorite commercials ever--the "Flawless" ad from Fruit of the Loom. The models (all different sizes of women in their undies) look at the camera and say, "Beauty magazines offer their tricks. Tell me, what are they trying to fix?" Sing it, sisters!!

As a couple of us just posted in a fitting thread, your body is your body, and it's absolutely perfect just like it is. You should ABSOLUTELY embrace your shape!! AND you should embrace the styles you love to wear. Another rule to question: Who says we have to wear our most "flattering" styles every day?! I'm shorter, curvy, and becoming more pear shaped as I get older, and I look best in tops that skim my curves and hit at the high hip. BUT, I'm totally embracing the skinny jeans/tunic/drapy cardigan look--and why not? I love it, it feels good, and I can go back to those other clothes on any other day.

But!! I do think it pays to experiment with things you never considered before. Last year I bought a top that came with a skinny belt. I have NEVER thought I looked good in belts or with blouses tucked in, etc. But whodathunkit--that skinny belt looked *fabulous!* I wear it with the sweater it came with AND a number of other things (including those drapey cardigans sometimes). We should really examine our "nevers" every once in a while, to see if things have changed.

--From a shorter curvy woman, and darn proud of it! (Um, most of the time! )

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Date: 1/8/13 9:46 PM

I hardly ever tuck my tops in either, except if I'm wearing a skirt suit and the blouse is going to hang out from under my jacket. (Most of my pants are snug enough in the waist anyway.) Maybe they would have you wearing shirts that have some shape & would look good without being tucked in.
I used to like Emme's show, when she had it, a lot better than the American "What Not To Wear". (I liked the British "What Not To Wear" because they could be funny.) Emme was so kind and they found some really great clothes for people. One of the ones I remember was a slender petite young woman starting a job (maybe in a law office, I forget) where she needed to dress so that she looked grown up. I think she showed up in jeans and a t-shirt and Keds, something like that, and they had her dressed up in this sharp looking tailored sort of outfit. It was quite something.
-- Edited on 1/8/13 9:50 PM --

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Date: 1/9/13 0:59 AM

I love this thread! Thank you, HTH

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