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Message Board > Men Who Sew > Any Tips For Encouraging A Guy To Sew? ( Moderated by CarolynGM, Deepika)

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Any Tips For Encouraging A Guy To Sew?
My boyfriend loves the idea but has reservations.
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Date: 5/5/13 9:52 PM

Sewing is my life at the moment and sometimes it seems like it's all I talk about, especially with my boyfriend. He can spend half an hour talking about how the third Silent Hill movie was an insult to the games (a movie I've never watched and a game I've never played) so I think we're just about even.

When I talk about my sewing projects or he talks about the dolls he's learning to make (fully articulated art dolls) he says he'd love to be able to sew things, but when I try and tell him it's easy he says he's worried he'll sew through his fingers or something.

I'm thinking of trying to plonk him down in front of the machine just to make a couple of strait lines on one layer of fabric till he relaxes a bit, but do you guys have any suggestions?

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Date: 5/5/13 10:12 PM

You can lead a guy to a sewing machine but you can't make him stitch. My husband knew how to sew before I met him so required no coaxing. What attracted him to learning were kits with which he made down coats, gaiters for cross country skiing, and a two person tent. Frostline went out of business many years ago; I don't know of any other companies that offer precut/premarked kits.

If you can't find something comparable you could put together a similar kit with your man specifically in mind: buy a pattern and fabric, maybe even cut it out and mark it so all he has to do is start sewing.
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Date: 5/6/13 0:02 AM

Sounds like he is possibly wishing maybe you will make those all those clothes for the fully articulated art dolls of his instead of him having to do it maybe? If his art dolls are not to have any clothes, then maybe by some having some, that might even be the incentive and thing he might want to sew?

Just since if he could make something like that, I'm sure he could also use a sewing machine without running over his fingers a whole lot, so just that part, about the fingers, sounds a bit lame to me

Also maybe he is just really looking for a project both of you can share and spend time on, and talk about together as a common interest, and shared time into maybe? By having you particpate, in the doll clothes makeing, sounds like that maybe would be happening.

But if you want him to sew, I would just plonk him down there, and show him how to operate the machine, and give him some fabric with pre-printed lines and circles and geometric shapes printed on it, and let him go to it, following all those shapes for a bit. Also tell him, that most people whom even get a needle in a finger, I think that happens because they are talking to someone else, with their head turned around backwards while sewing at the same time, so don't do that. Also show/tell him, that if a needle did go in a finger, by taking foot off the foot pedal, and just turning the fly wheel backwards, to lift the needle, the force of the machine then would most times also lift the needle out of your finger. If not though, then you need to know how to release the needle from the machine. Show him that ahead of time too. But hang around sort of close, just in case.

Once he is actually doing it, I think he will change his mind probably.
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Date: 5/6/13 0:16 AM

He is the one that needs to be interested. Perhaps start the conversation about fabric choices for the doll clothes. Then move to a pattern, cutting etc. But if he cant get to even fabric decisions or a pattern I would guess it is just talk. Perhaps he is trying to show you some appreciation because he sew. Or drop a hint he would like you to sew for him.

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Date: 5/6/13 5:52 AM

I am so fascinated by the "sewing through his fingers" comment.

Whenever I've talked to my guy coworkers (most of whom do not sew) about the fact that I sew, often times the very first thing they ask me is "Have you ever sewn through your fingers?" I've been asked this multiple times - not just once. (Answer: "Yes, I have sewn through my fingers, but not for many years now.") Quite possibly women who don't sew are also concerned about sewing through their fingers, but that's not the first question that they ask me.

To me, sewing is a lot like woodworking with power tools. There are certainly multiple ways to hurt yourself on woodworking power tools, but proper training and safety habits can keep you safe. It's the same with sewing machines, which are just power tools for fabric.

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Date: 5/6/13 7:37 AM

Look online at high-end Art Doll sites.
He will see how clothing enhances the sellability of his creations.
Try artdollsonly.com and Pinterest.
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Date: 5/6/13 7:40 AM

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Sounds like he is possibly wishing maybe you will make those all those clothes for the fully articulated art dolls of his instead of him having to do it maybe?
I agree with you on this one, beauturbo. It seems to me that when DH talks about some kind of fear, in with his wishin' and hopin', it's an indication he wants me to come forward in some way.

As a suggestion, Virginia, why not show him how to make simple straight things, like throw pillows? Don't start him off on clothes for this art dolls; they are too small and he will become easily frustrated.

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Date: 5/6/13 7:49 AM

As a guy, what motivates me is making something "I" need or want. Just sewing a straight line or circles is not exciting.

Try this: You start an art doll outfit. But don't do the whole thing. Guide him in sewing a basic part (shirt hem, pant leg, something straight line). It's especially fun if it "finishes" the garment.

If he likes it, great! If not, at least he has learned part of the process. Either way, he's learned something.

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Date: 5/6/13 10:41 AM

"Sewing through your finger" is akin to "You'll shoot your eye out"....mostly an old fart's tale.

Why would you want to clothe a fully articulate doll? No one would see the craftsmanship.

If he really wants to sew, he will do so. Right now it is just conversation.




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Date: 5/6/13 11:06 AM

DH told me once that it makes him as nervous when I sew really fast as it does me when he drives too fast.

He knows my hands aren't near the needle and he knows I've never had an accident in the sewing room.

It's interesting to me to read that other men express the same fear.

He has helped me sew miles of seams when making curtains for our bedroom so he's familiar with the process.

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