Member since 9/25/12
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Date: 8/31/13 4:02 AM
I am sure I have deeply offended many of you by admitting I don't care for children (not my own, I like my kids). I got home from my dad's cancer treatment, getting my hair done (long overdue), paying bills and getting life together and I have my usual neighbor's kid on my lawn, plus 3 others sitting on my porch. Who I don't even know.
I ask "don't you kids have school?"
Usual Kid "I'm 4."
Other kids tell me they already went and came home.
I ask them why they are there. Last kid goes "I need a band aid, and Usual Kid told me you have neat ones."
Last kid needed more then one band aid. He tore his knee up pretty good. So I find the non my little pony, hello kitty and barbie band aids, patch him up and tell him to quit playing in the road since it bites.
Usual kid, kid that wanted a cookie that didn't talk much and Last kid leave. Fine, cool. Another kid is sitting on my couch trying to look inconspicuous. I ask this one what's up (while I am cleaning up blood, trying to organize my crap, my shopping, and everything else from walking in the door).
Apparently some OTHER KID I don't even know told this kid I give free food, and kid on couch is hungry since him mom won't be home until late. I didn't ask how late was late. I know the area. Kid ate breakfast, kid ate lunch (I asked). Kid came over for an after school snack. It's a mess of a story (and there's baby sitters, grandma and another neighbor and before child services is yelled at me, he IS in the system).
I fed couch kid a sandwich, but my DH and I were going out, and I had a babysitter for my own kid lined up, so kid couldn't exactly stay for dinner. (And yes, he got a dinner before he left to eat later.)
Makes all you feel better, I apparently feed not only the stray animals in the area, but stray kids too.
Even when they won't get off my lawn.
Now seriously, who on earth gets random kids showing up? The last few weeks it's been getting worse. I have at least 2 kids a week I don't know where they came from (although generally I know whose kid belongs where since it's a small town and people talk, or I know someone they know, etc.)
I'm not looking for a pat on the back, or even a response. I didn't do it because I want the accolades, most of the time other then complaining that these kids vacuum up cookies, I don't even talk about them. (Unless it's funny. Then it's fair game.)
So tonight we got home relatively early for a Friday, and I have a brand new pet frog. That I was apparently supposed to EAT. Randomly left on my porch by some random kid with a note telling me they're good in a pan.
Edited to finish the frog portion of the entertainment.
-- Edited on 8/31/13 4:04 AM --
Member since 2/3/06
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Date: 8/31/13 4:35 AM
On behalf of kids everywhere, thank you. Its nice to know that there are people in the world that kids can trust. That give them a safe place (and a meal if they need one).
Enjoy the frog
Member since 6/2/12
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Date: 8/31/13 6:16 AM
Sounds like you make the world a nicer place to live in :)
A frog, ahhhh... that's a pretty cool thank you pressie!
Member since 12/15/02
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Date: 8/31/13 7:54 AM
Your a good person, whether you like kids or not. What's sad about these kids that they don't have any supervision or someone to care about where they are at or who they are with. Good thing they found you.
|Doris W. in TN
Member since 2/9/04
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Date: 8/31/13 8:40 AM
Okay, this post reads like standup comedy. LOL
Eh, I thought that one of those kids pointed out to you that you don't have a lawn.
Seriously, what quiltingwolf said.
There is the age-old saying/proverb: "You can NOT fool kids and dogs." The kids love you and perhaps surrender is your best defense.
Member since 12/28/07
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Date: 8/31/13 9:10 AM
I seem to be a kid magnet also.. I noticed if I stay outside more than a minute the next thing I know the neighborhood children are bicycling down to my house. I am way past the kiddie age in my life.. so not up to the task of entertaining children.. So I understand its just plain annoying sometimes. heck even my own kids can annoy me anymore.
I think the kids are bored.. and probably a bit lonely .. and certainly in need of attention. However.. I wouldn't necessarily say they are neglected.. I remember all too well when I was a child craving any excitement I could get. I remember as I am sure many of you do.. our moms would kick us out to find things to do using our imagination.. We were not allowed to stay inside watching TV and gosh knows there was no internet back then..
Often times that meant going practically from door to door to see what all everyone was up to... and if anyone wanted to take us in for peanut butter sandwiches.. or fig newtons.. Pretty much we were welcomed back then.. I do think perhaps the moms rotated the kid supervising.. the one reason we were always told and expected to respect all adults back then.. We weren't allowed back in our homes till our moms had cleaned the house.. and their sanity was somewhat restored.. Course back then many families ahd four to six kids.. And the world was a safer place.. or at least your own neighborhood was.
If you have younger children yourself.. its just part of being a mom.. a stage that will not last.. enjoy it if you can as the years will go swiftly by.. Bear in mind that many of these kids will carry fond memories of anything you do for them.. I know I still think about the moms that were on our block when I grew up.. It was like having many moms.. Sad to say often the neighbors mom had more time for me than my own..
Think of it as taking your turn.. but .. if and when enough is enough.. just retreat and tell the kids to move on.. move along and go play somewhere else that day..
Stray kids are like stray animals.. if you feed them.. they will return.. And I would consider getting a gift of a frog the highest compliment..
And all of this.. is why I now steer clear of kids.. as much as humanly possible. I did my time..
Member since 7/16/07
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Date: 8/31/13 10:03 AM
"I need a band aid, and Usual Kid told me you have neat ones."
This kind of speaks for itself. Thanks for the nudge to open my world a bit, whether you intended it as a nudge or not.
my shield and my very great reward ~ Gen. 15:1
Member since 6/30/05
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Date: 8/31/13 11:09 AM
Word is out that you are a soft touch!
Member since 11/21/09
Date: 8/31/13 11:19 AM
Kids gravitated to my house when my boys were little. I often wondered why as I wasn't the type of mom to let them run wild, climb the fence or pound on each other?
What I learned as a grandma is that kids just like to be with you and talk at you. Doesn't matter what you do just be there.
Member since 7/23/07
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Date: 8/31/13 11:31 AM
I'd take it as a compliment. Our house was a bit like yours all the way through high school. We harboured kids who needed a bed for a few days or just overnight and also had the biggest basement so - oh joy - got to be the place where the band(s) hung out and "mom, we want to keep the drums here so we don't have to move them all the time." Eesh! That was a loud year, but at least I knew where my own kids were. Lots of things I do not miss about those days.
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