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Date: 10/24/13 2:07 PM

Not too sure how to phrase this but I was wondering how others deal with the issue of having a very imperfect body and yet sewing for oneself.

Before having the first of my four kids 8 years ago I was a UK size 12, B cup bra
I am now an 18, E cup.

I've tried to lose weight several times, with various success and regains.

For ages I thought I wouldn't bother to sew for myself until I had lost weight but I've just realised I was punishing myself and that I should sew for who I am and not who I hope I will be one day.

So after 12 attempts (!) I've finished a fitting shell for myself. I was SO proud! I've been dreaming of sewing for mysf for the past 10 years so this is important to me.
But then I went to upload the pictures.

Oh my.

Sure, the fit is great but there's no hiding in a fitting shell right?

I'm now wondering about whether or not to continue with my dream of sewing for myself...considering my body looks awful.

Can anyone relate?

The thing is that I actually prefer plus sized to non plus sized but when it comes to me I think it looks awful. There are o many gorgeous plus sized people out there, it's just that I am not one of them.

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Date: 10/24/13 2:24 PM

I think we all look in the mirror and wonder what happened to me!

I don't care for the plus sizes. They're too big and some are too frumpy.

I have determined what pattern adjustments I need and use them for the standard sized patterns I do like.

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Date: 10/24/13 3:39 PM

#mama, I feel your pain... But remember that a fitting shell is so NOT designed to be a flattering garment! I also struggle with making clothes for my body as I don't want it to be, but when I do have clothes that fit me I feel so much better than in RTW which I have to buy with ginormous shoulders if I want to get the garment over my hips.

Also, I took it that you were referring to plus size people whereas PattiAnn is definitely referring to the plus size pattern offerings. Just wanted to make sure there was no misunderstanding going on there!

I suggest you cruise pattern review and find something that looks good on someone of a similar build to you, and try that, or otherwise start with something you want but can't buy to fit - for me that is things like dresses, nicely fitting t shirts (I'm short) and yoga pants, or something you like the style of but want to tweak to suit you - eg with a different neckline.
Don't give up - there probably isn't anyone out there who likes the look of themselves in their fitting shell!
-- Edited on 10/24/13 3:40 PM --

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Date: 10/24/13 4:12 PM

M2m, I think the important thing to realise is that very few have a 'perfect' body and the rest of us learn to adjust clothes to fit in a flattering way. Personally, I sew because most ready to wear doesn't fit me - I am short but long waisted so most tops are too short on me and the 'waist' sits on my ribs. I'm wide across the upper back so I need to go up at least a size to fit in and move my arms, so the rest of the top/shirt is too big. I have a rectangle shape, so no waist to speak of and I've been curving more outward over the past few years Oh and lets not forget the big backside and impressive lower back curve. Seriously, my cat can stand on my butt when I'm standing up.
The point being, we all have stuff we don't like about ourselves and seeing a fitting shell or dummy padded to match our measurements can be confronting, but once you get the fit right, you look better and feel better. There are plenty of us here to help with fitting and support. Good luck

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Date: 10/24/13 4:26 PM

First of all, your body is absolutely perfect just the way it is. You have four kids--congratulations! Can you pick them up, pick up after them, play with them, and teach them? If you have the energy and health to do that, every day, then PRAISE your strong, healthy body that gave you those beautiful children.No, it doesn't look like it used to--but look at all the work it's done!

And after all that... it absolutely deserves your kindness, love, appreciation... and some beautiful clothing!! :)

(Agree with what everyone else says--one of the delightful reasons we WEAR clothes is so that we don't have to see all our least favorite bits on display! So quickly learn what your fitting shell has to teach you, so you can get on to making some gorgeous, flattering stuff that's MEANT to be seen!)

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Date: 10/24/13 4:39 PM

I suggest you check out Carolyn's blog. Your style may be vastly different, but you might be inspired by what you see. Don't give up now, you've just started the journey! There's going to be some setbacks and disappointment, but you'll end up with some flattering clothes that fit.
-- Edited on 10/24/13 4:40 PM --

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Date: 10/24/13 5:20 PM

Thank you everyone.

As ridiculous as it sounds it hadn't occurred to me that no one looks good in a fitting shell! Duh!

Ftr, I was referring to the fact that I find plus sized people beautiful, not plus sized patterns...most of those are really not my style. I much prefer more fitted styles....give me darts and princess lines, I love them!

Well, you've convinced me to carry on!

I'm off to figure out how to use my fitting shell to adapt simplicity 1882!

Thank you!

I need to work on accepting my body. In many ways that's harder than losing weight but probably a much better investment in the long run. Also, I'd much rather teach my kids about accepting different body shapes without judgement than having them think they need to look a certain way to be acceptable (I have 2 boys and 2 girls but I think it's just as important for both genders)
I don't give a fig what shape other people are, I truly don't judge people on their shape but it seems I do judge myself.

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Date: 10/24/13 6:29 PM

I have discovered that if you feel good, you can look good no matter the size or shape you see in the mirror. Healthy is better than skinny sick. I weigh a lot, but with exercise I have discovered that when I am able to move around, not get headaches, no more back spasms or inability to play.... I am pretty happy with the usefulness of my body.

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Date: 10/24/13 6:43 PM

I want to climb to the mountain tops and shout out to you younger women to embrace and value yourselves; as individuals and as a group.

Mama2more, you are worth it! You are worth everything!

Now, I have a lot more to say on this, but it will have to keep until another day. In the meantime, eat well, squeeze in a few minutes of intentional exercise each day and - maybe the most important - create a plan of action to get sufficient quality rest. What's really important about your body is being at your healthiest for yourself and your family and laying a foundation of health for all you.

Look in the mirror and make a target of seeing health glowing back at you. It is so seriously important to you and your family; now and in the future.

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Date: 10/24/13 8:16 PM

Mama this is exactly why you should sew! So many plus sized clothes just don't fit correctly. I discovered full bust adjustments here as well as discovering I was a petite plus. Who knew, those 2 words even went together but it explains why things didn't fit correctly.

I suggest you check out some of the independent pattern companies. Carolyn's blog is great. I also found shoulder princess styles worked well for making adjustments.

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