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Message Board > Creative Sewing > Do other people appreciate your sewing? ( Moderated by Lynnelle)

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Date: 10/26/13 12:08 PM

(I hope this is in the right place..)

I'm now wondering if other sewists/needlewomen get any appreciation of their efforts from friends and relatives? If it weren't for my very appreciative husband (who sees all the industry) and this forum, and one friend, I'd get no understanding or recognition of the skills involved, the engineering aspects of what I choose to sew, plus the design elements.

I don't exactly overwhelm my nearest and dearest with details of my latest finished garment - only one or two photos with a few words of text. But it seems that either I'm boring them to death, or they don't know what to say (= nil response) or they make stupid remarks, such as "that's too long", "I don't like that shiny material", "I don't like that pointed shirt collar", or even "I don't like that shirt you're wearing underneath". One of the worst was "why don't you make a really spiffy waistcoat next".



Maybe I'll confine my reporting on my sewing progress to this forum - where people know how much effort and thought is involved, and the one good friend who really enjoys seeing me wearing whatever-it-is this week.

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Date: 10/26/13 12:34 PM

Ouch, I feel for you. My experience has been only positive - family and coworkers think I'm a freaking genius - just because I sew.

Maybe some of the snarky comments you get come from folks who are jealous because they don't sew?



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Date: 10/26/13 1:10 PM

Handshake, you have made some really lovely things. Please ignore the negativity it probably is jealousy or perfhaps people don't realise how much goes into actually making a garment.

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Date: 10/26/13 1:11 PM

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Ouch, I feel for you. My experience has been only positive - family and coworkers think I'm a freaking genius - just because I sew.












I agree people sometimes can't actually believe I've made something and proceed to check the seams and hems

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Date: 10/26/13 1:32 PM

I've found that those who don't sew won't have an appreciation for the time and effort involved. I share with my DH, but he reaches boredom level quickly so I give him the Reader's Digest of anything sewing-related. When talking to someone I don't know well, if I get the "deer in the headlights" look, I change the subject. It's a whole other set of words and acronyms that most just don't understand. Stick with this forum and others like it and you'll be much happier. It's where I come for my "fix".

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Date: 10/26/13 1:32 PM

My mom sews and is pretty supportive but I know she doesn't like my taste. My dad complains about my fabric, my ils expect me to be their personal dressmaker and my sister actively mocks me for being too poor to buy real clothes ie namebrand.

DD and DH are the ones I sew for and while they take it for granted I'll do it, they enjoy what they get.
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Date: 10/26/13 2:03 PM

It seems that reactions depend on a few things not matter what the hobby -

- their knowledge of the work and materials that go into the end product. Another sewer, knitter, crocheter, jewelry maker, woodworker (any hobby making things) knows how much good materials and equipment cost, and how much time is involved in a good result.

- how expensive it is to buy a similar item in a store If you are making simple T-shirts similar to those that can be bought for $5, it won't be given much respect, no matter how much better the fit is or what the fabric is. If you make a silk ball gown, wedding dress or cashmere winter coat, that might cost hundreds or thousands to buy, people will tend to be more impressed.

- if they're working up to asking you do do a project they are too cheap to pay for. There is more than 1 thread here and on other forums about being asked to sew by others and having the results being unappreciated. Or sewing gifts and having the results unappreciated - I think we've all heard stories of spending months making a quilt that ends up being used for a dog bed within days.

Now, on those rare occasions I actually get something finished, I don't say anything about making it, unless asked. Where the conversation goes from there depends on the interest level of the other person. Sometimes it ends with "yes I did make this" and sometimes it goes on to where I got the fabric or what the pattern was, and sometimes how long it took, etc.

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Date: 10/26/13 2:07 PM

My mom used to sew, but the reaction from her tends to be either a patronizing "That's nice, honey" or telling me what should be straighter, neater, etc.

My sister (who sewed when she was in HS, but not much since - I have some of her 80s patterns, lol) is appreciative, but that's generally the case when something is not sewing-related.

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Date: 10/26/13 2:23 PM

Many people look at me in the same way I look at people when they tell me they are web designers! I have no clue what it is they do!! I think many of my friends can't quite grasp why I would subject myself to such suffering since all the sewing that they have ever done was maybe an apron about a million years ago in home ec in high school, or sewing ornaments in Blue Birds to put on food trays for old people in homes.
But they do support me in my endeavors, and so I still love them!

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Date: 10/26/13 2:26 PM

DH likes my sewing because he appreciates PJ's & shirts made for him. His mother always sewed for their family. Our sons seem to regularly need another zipper replaced or mending done. They are grateful & I don't mind usually, though zippers are not a favorite job.

An aunt once remarked to me, "Oh, I forgot you sew." Meaning she would have brought along any mending or projects for her visit if she'd remembered! (She never learned to sew.)

Mom likes anything I do for her. She sews & knows the details/work involved.

I talk about sewing only with people I know will enjoy the subject.

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