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Date: 1/24/06 12:42 PM

I'm a 50-something SAHM divorcee thinking of dipping my toe back into the dating pool. Any suggestions where I might meet nice Christian or Catholic men, decent and fun and self-supporting? I thought by now someone in my circle of friends or family might have suggested someone, but that hasn't happened. The few dates I've been on haven't been with anyone with whom I'd like to spend a lot of time. I obviously love sewing, and also am a great cook, active tennis player, walker, reader, photographer, movie goer. Ladies, help! Clare in Louisiana

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Date: 1/24/06 12:47 PM

Good question. Unfortunately, I haven't got a clue, so I'd love to hear some good suggestions.

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Date: 1/24/06 12:52 PM

I think that you can meet the "most" men at a part-time job, like a gas-station or cashier at a restaurant, but the "best" men are probably to be found working for volunteer organizations.

Either way will get you met, I bet.
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Date: 1/24/06 12:57 PM

After many years on the internet, meeting lots of interesting men from different parts of the country (and a few actually in person), I finally ended up with someone I work with. Go figure!

I don't really believe there's a "place" to meet people. When I was in college, one of my best friends met someone in a bar and we weren't the type to hang out in bars. And we definitely weren't the type to want MEET someone in a bar, We just happened to be there that night! But it happened, they fell in love, got married and they're still together to this day. The funny thing is, whenever their grandparents asked where they met, they made something up.

If I had to say the one place you're most likely to meet men, I'd say it's the place where you feel comfortable enough to make eye contact with them. You'd be surprised how that's the ONE thing that makes a difference no matter where you are.

Unfortunately, regardless of where you meet them, you're going to meet some who don't fall into any of the categories you're looking for. You'll have to be assertive enough to weed them out, but you can do it. It's hard work, but you're worth waiting for the right one, right?


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Date: 1/24/06 1:02 PM

How exciting for you Clare!

Clubs and classes seem like great places to meet people of similar interest--and likely people who are looking, too.

Is there a cooking school near you that offers one-time courses?

Is there a tennis league in your area? Or a pro shop with a bulletin board where you can post a note looking for someone to play with?

How about a outdoor or hiking club?

Or a community college that offers adult-ed/community classes?

Although I'm a happily married newlywed of coming up on ten years, I seem to meet a lot of interested men at the grocery store and computer parts stores. Go figure.

Have fun!

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Date: 1/24/06 1:03 PM

I met my husband through an online dating site. It is discreet and free for women. When I was a single mother it was difficult to meet men and I definitely did not like going to the bar to meet them. I liked the online scene because I could narrow them down before even communicating with them. You do need to be careful though. I always met them in a public place. I did meet one jerk and quickly got rid of him. My husband sent me an email and I had a good feeling about him. The funny thing about that is before he sent me an email I passed him by because I thought he looked like a redneck in his picture. The truth was he posted a picture of himself camping. Anyways, the minute I met him I trusted him. I had a very strong feeling that he was a good person. I was right! I married him two years later.

This may not sound like something you would want to try but if you are careful I think it is worth a shot. Just be very specific in your profile and follow your instincts. You also do not have to tell your friends or family what you are doing.

My father-in-law is 65 and he is meeting women through an online dating service too. He loves it. Give it a shot.

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Date: 1/24/06 1:06 PM

Believe it or not, my brother and my cousin have both found fabulous people through online dating. Send me a PM and I can tell you which one they use (not sure if Deepika wants me advertising their site).

My cousin's man is in his 50s, a millionaire, an incredible gentleman and quite handsome. She is thrilled!

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Date: 1/24/06 1:28 PM

If you have an adult ed program or a community college in your area, and are interested in any subjects taught there, you will certainly run into people who share your interests. Our local community college has lots of returnees in their 50s and beyond, and I've certainly seen connections made there.

SewClare
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Date: 1/24/06 1:28 PM

Thank you, all, for your suggestions. Online dating has produced wonderful results for a friend (married 1-1/2yrs.) and a cousin (engaged, wedding this Sept.). I guess that's the way to go in this busy world. I do do volunteer work, but so far haven't run into anyone. As far as tennis, you'd think that'd be a great place to meet, but most of the guys playing mixed at my club are married - they make great tennis pals, but I want a guy of my own!! I appreciate your suggestions. Thanks. Clare in Louisiana

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Date: 1/24/06 1:30 PM

I also want to put a plug in for the online thing. I've met several couples who met online and rave about it. One woman told me that you can pick out the liars pretty easily. Men don't remember what they may have lied about in the profile, and it usually surfaces within the first several communications. She advised to correspond several times before committing to a date in a public place of course.
Unsafe, no. Less risk than most of the common ways we meet people, IMHO.
Good luck Clare. I'm curious what area of La. you are from. You don't have to answer that publically of course. Perhaps we could get together sometimes if you are close to BR.

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