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WOULD YOU RATHER STAND OUT or BLEND IN?
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Date: 5/18/06 11:11 PM

I've got another question.

Regarding dress and regarding every aspect of you:

Would you rather stand out or would you rather blend in? Please explain. Think carefully because this has broad implications. Is your instinctive reply the one that you really stand behind?

-LornaKismet (Lorna A.)

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Date: 5/18/06 11:51 PM

Both. To reduce a complex answer to a sound bite sized response; I like to be distinctive, but seen as "appropriate", which carries the connotation of blending in.

The extent to which I prefer the "stand out" end of the scale or the "blend in" end depends on the circumstances. As a bride I wanted to stand out. As a bridesmaid I wanted to blend in.

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Date: 5/18/06 11:53 PM

I like to blend in but look nice and pulled together (when I'm dressed professionally that is) just in case someone notices me. I'm actually pretty conservative about what I wear and don't like to wear things that say "look at me." On the other hand if someone happens to notice, I want them to say "oh, she looks nice." I really admire confident women who wear what they want and don't worry about what other people think. My weekend style is so casual as to be a non-style, I think.

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Date: 5/19/06 1:39 AM

Quote: Judy Williment
Both. To reduce a complex answer to a sound bite sized response; I like to be distinctive, but seen as "appropriate", which carries the connotation of blending in.



The extent to which I prefer the "stand out" end of the scale or the "blend in" end depends on the circumstances. As a bride I wanted to stand out. As a bridesmaid I wanted to blend in.

Why type my own post when I can just quote Judy's??!

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Date: 5/19/06 6:45 AM

I don't like being stared at, so want to be unnoticed. This is different from blending in, since I usually have something unusual and handmade, even if it's just a small detail. I don't mind if people notice that, or even comment, since I enjoy meeting people who appreciate creative and handmade things.

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Date: 5/19/06 8:37 AM

I go for the stand-out-but-not-in-a-garish-way school of thought.

As an example, I was at a meeting, attended by women exclusively, the first week of April. At that time, my hair was still long. At this meeting, almost every woman in the room had a haircut exactly like mine. I looked around and was horrified. The next week I chopped all my hair off to the current bob.

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Date: 5/19/06 8:52 AM

Please don't look at me; but if you're going to look at me, please notice I'm not like everyone else.

That seems to be the general setiment, which I can strongly identify with.

"Blending" means loosing individuality; "Receeding" means waiting for other people to find you instead of proclaiming yourself. A lot of us don't want to be the center of attention or "get everyone to look at us", but that doesn't mean we want to be just like everyone else.

Being different, but not for the sake of drawing attention to ourselves.

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Date: 5/19/06 8:55 AM

My instinct is to Not Attract Attention (in everything, not just clothes) because I can be pretty shy.

Saying that, I've been an artist most of my life (oh, the looks of horror when my mother's friends discovered she let me cut and paste when I was 18 months old! LOL I've been cutting and pasting ever since-- I work in collage for the most part.) Artists by nature tend toward the non-mainstream I think, so I habitually don't usually look the way everyone else around me looks. Ann Gorgeous Thing's story totally cracked me up, but it would never happen to me. I'm usually slightly "off" (oh, the looks of horror from my mother!).

I know at least in my case a combination of not wanting to look like everyone else and sheer laziness makes me stand out around here, unfortuantley mostly as being a huge fashionless slob . I will say that a large part of all of this is due to my size and the (very poor) way clothes fit me. If I had a different figure, I would wear completely different clothes than I do and probably stand out more because of it.

Good grief. Too long of a post, sorry. It's something I think about a lot, as you might tell.

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Date: 5/19/06 9:01 AM

I like to stand out only if there's admiration in the viewer's eyes. I don't want to stick out like a sore thumb. I guess if I am one of a group I would like to stand out as a best representative of that group. If I wear sweats I want to be the one in coordinating sweats that flatter me; if I am in a group in jeans I want to be the one who is in a jean ensemble! How is that for an answer? I don't want to picked out as an example of "what not to wear or how not to wear it!"

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Date: 5/19/06 9:08 AM

When I was young, I wanted to blend in, but I usually failed. Now, I've reached the age of invisibility. I was thinking about buying one of those horrible thong things to wear under a new pair of white pants; then I realized that I don't have to. In a way, it's rather liberating.

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