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Do your family's comments stop you cold?
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Date: 2/29/08 12:20 PM

I wanted to sew a nice zippered jacket. I sewed a muslin and it fits nicely and looks fairly good. I was going to cut into the black wool crepe and use a RiRi zipper for some flash. Then DH makes the off hand comment that the jacket looks like the uniform jacket his father wore when he worked at a tire store (back in the '50's).

Now I'm sure it's because of the combination of the fairly tailored design and partly because of the olive green fabric from Wally world, but I'm just stopped dead in my tracks. I don't want to waste $$ on something that is not wearable (i.e. will make people look at me out of the sides of their eyes). On the other hand I really think it would be a nice sporty jacket.

Grrrr.

Does anyone else have this problem?
-- Edited on 2/29/08 12:21 PM --

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Date: 2/29/08 12:30 PM

My MIL often makes comments like "why would you want to make that?" but that's just the way she is, and we don't live in the same town, so I don't hear it too often. But a jacket that has a 50's vibe? How cool, what's the pattern?

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Date: 2/29/08 12:52 PM

I think you make the jacket, look stunning in it, and vow to never ever let your husband borrow it.

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Date: 2/29/08 12:57 PM

I know what you mean. It is hard to get the comment out of your head and may end up not wearing it because of it.

It is like the comment "did you make that" I immediately wonder why they thought I made it. Does it look homemade?

Oh head trips stop us from doing so many things

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Date: 2/29/08 1:52 PM

It sounds like a very attractive jacket. Maybe if you added some texture to the fabric(random decorative stitching or cording) with matching color thread it wouldn't seem so much like you're going off to install tires(according to your silly DH). I think the zipper will do a lot on it's own.

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Date: 2/29/08 2:19 PM

Just use a removable pin type name tag instead of a sewn on one (to be used when in his presence) ;-).

I've had comments like that before, like you look like you could be an airline stewardess, or you look like a banker or realtor. I have since learned to equate that to flippant virbage that simply means you look tailored to the point of possible vocational slotting. Which as we know, uniforms were designed initially to create a polished professional look to a distinguished group. I was actually going for that look as it was garments intended for the professional arena.
But if this is not the goal you intended, then sometimes simply detail will take that look away, like slanted welted pockets in coordinating textiles (or your deco zippers) or appliques of some sort that would create the line where a collar may have lain in another style. It's all relative, but don't let comments deter you, rather let them be creative challenges that you seek to play with. That almost always opens new doors to ideas you might not have even imagined making your garment truly your own personalized and customized creation. I LOVE being different, makes people ask about my work. I say go for it! JF

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Date: 2/29/08 2:24 PM

I had an olive green shirt that my husband said looked like army fatigues.....I got rid of it because I didn't care much for it. Maybe it's the olive green color that men notice?

Make your jacket and wear it --- I'm sure that if your husband had great fashion sense he wouldn't wear some of the things he does....and he probably just made an off hand comment, not meaning to burst your bubble.

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Date: 2/29/08 2:34 PM

Marilyn, I don't think that your DH meant anything at all negative by his casual, observational comment. If you recall work service uniforms in the 50's and 60's (not sure if you're old enough to do so), you'd agree that they were all of a solid drabbed-down shade of the chosen color to hide stains, had a front zipper, and that they were all 'designed' with no-nonsense lines, containing only pockets, collars or tool tabs necessary to do the assigned job.

Service workers of the time (99.99% of whom were men) simply donned them for work and never gave a thought to their style or lack of style. Possibly, neither did the women who washed and ironed them.

Since your planned jacket does, at its core, include at least two elements of the service tire industry (olive drab fabric and clean no-nonsense lines), I think your DH just had a "memory flash" of the similarities. I don't think he was making a style judgment of your jacket. I think he was just enjoying his child memory of watching Dad dress for work.

I've worked with men (science types, engineer types and absolutely no metro-sexual types) for 35+ years. They rarely intend offense when venturing into "woman" things like style. They just don't think like we do.

If you removed the trim, the high falutin' fabric, and the chain weight at the hemline of a Chanel jacket, and instead make this clean garment from white pique cotton with a patch pocket on the left upper chest, a man would probably comment (innocently) that it looks like a doctor's coat. He wouldn't notice that its not long enough for a doctor's coat and he wouldn't recall that most doctors' coats have a rolled notched lapel collar. For him, the white pocketed jacket is enough to clamp it into the visual box he calls - doctor's coat.

Now add back all the Chanel details and that same man would swear to high heavens that two garments have absolutely nothing in common - and that anyone who thinks they're the same garment is ... well, just a knucklehead.

Just carry on making your lovely jacket and if it everytime you wear it, it triggers in DH a nostalgic recollection of hardworking Dad - good for him and good for you.

I can promise you that noone in the office, noone at the grocery story, and noone in the entire world will be reminded of a 50's worker in a tire store. (...Well, unless you run into the son/daughter of a coworker at that same tire store.) --Lily




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Date: 2/29/08 2:36 PM

Great reply.

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Date: 2/29/08 2:46 PM

I find that when my husband makes those kind of comments it's usually because he forgets that muslins/pictures on pattern envelopes don't really reflect how the finished product will turn out.

Every time I show him a new pattern envelope and say, "Isn't that cute?" he says, "It's okay, but the fabric they used is really ugly." Of course, I know that's besides the point, but sometimes he needs a little reminder. Maybe your husband just doesn't have the same "vision" you do about what the final garment will look like.

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