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Andreahg
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Date: 3/3/09 5:43 PM

Over the past year, I've had to take medication that helped put on nearly 25lbs. None of my clothes fit. I decided to do a SWAP. My goal was to be done by the end of April. I started last week and have had nothing but failures. Yes, I made test garments, but the real ones just aren't turning out. My first wadder was a knit top. My wearable muslin is now my new favorite top. The difference: the muslin was print and the real top was solid. In the solid, the faux wrap called attention to my tummy. The other major problem was the one of my solids is a linen that washed up much softer than I was expecting. The real garment just isn't holding the shape as well as the muslin, which was a quilting cotton. I'm so close to giving up and having a good cry. Now, I feel like I'm out the nearly $200 I spent in fabric and still don't have any summer clothes.

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Date: 3/3/09 5:47 PM

Aw, but you are doing great to have that much production in just one week. Take someone like me that maybe gets one garment every month and you will see that you are making great strides.

Also, you have learned more about four different fabrics just from what you described. The next time you go to use any of these fabrics you will have informed sewing under your belt and your success rate will sky rocket.

Keep on going, you are doing better than you give yourself credit!!!

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Date: 3/3/09 6:09 PM

Cry all you need. It sucks trying to get things to fit. I just keep plugging away at it, and keep telling myself it's a hobby. Don't even ask about the money being spent. I also told myself to hold off on buying fabric this month as much as possible.

I can't help but think that losing weight would be the answer, and honestly, that would be great. I just don't lose weight well, dieting is the pits, and I can't keep struggling about it for ever.

It's hard not to feel fat and dumpy when there are actually people doing reviews of swimsuits. But more power to them, it's actually pretty cool.

Just keep posting on this board, it's very supportive. Everyone here is so glad to help.

You WILL have a success, and it will be a great one.

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Date: 3/3/09 6:58 PM

It really sucks having a plan and high hopes and then it doesn't work out the way you wanted. Internet hugs if you want them - and don't give up!

If I were you I'd take a break and in a few days go back and look at what you've classified as "failure" - you may see it in a new light. Your body has changed a lot in a short time so you may not be used to really scrutinizing it the way one does when looking at the fit of a garment. I'm thinking with the wrap top in particular, the print may have camo-ed your tummy better than the solid, but it's quite possible that you're the only one who sees attention being drawn to your tummy (because of how you feel about it you're looking at it harder than usual), and someone on the outside of your brain might just think, "nice top."

Hang in there!

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Date: 3/3/09 7:10 PM

Feeling your pain! I've been wearing plain tees most of the time because i *HATE* shopping for clothes... Nothing fits a D-cup! Oh yeah, and I'm the world's slowest sewer... I'm almost done with a knit top I started last October... Argh.

I always try to look on the bright side, tho. A) you CAN sew! It might take some time, but you will get there and find your beloved TNT. B) you sew FAST! so it won't take you as long as you think...

Hang in there, give it another go. I only buy fabric for one project at a time (as far as apparel goes, anyway), and it's helping me learn a lot about fit... tho very slowly... You are probably learning a lot as you go, so don't give up! :)

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Date: 3/3/09 7:15 PM

Every time I have an garment that just doesn't quite work out as planned (more often than I care to admit) I ask myself: "What did I learn and how would I change the outcome next time?" Almost always I have learned at least one or two things. It can be: Wow that style doesn't suit me! or Woohee that fabric/pattern wasn't a good match. or At least I got practice installing invisible zippers.

For me this helps put a positive spin on the outcome. And with each garment made - a success or not - I can honestly say my skills are improving.

Hang in there. If you read enough reviews on this site you will find that even the "experts" have "wadders" from time to time (and those are just the ones they post) and most of them still put much effort into getting it all to work.

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Date: 3/3/09 7:18 PM

Regarding the linen: spray starch for the one that is made will help with the body. If you are willing to take it apart to underline it, you could try underlning it with the cotton to give it the stiffer hand you wanted. I would try underlining and/or lining any future linen garments. Personally, I like the limp softness of washed linen more than the stiffness of unwashed new linen with sizing still in it. It does need lining to keep from bagging out at butt and knees, though

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Date: 3/3/09 7:39 PM

Andrea are you sure your knit muslin that is your favourite top wasn't a different type of knit and thats what made the difference to the way it looks rather than just the print? I've had wadders - after decades of sewing- because I underestimated the stretch of a knit. And I've had times where I have to keep things simple to get my confidence back. So it's all a learning curve. You've learnt so much. Don't lose heart.

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Date: 3/3/09 7:52 PM

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Andrea, first off, there is no law that says you HAVE to make all your clothing. Go shopping and buy yourself a couple of items that come closest to fitting and that you truly like, and that you look well in. Don't wait "until" or expect yourself to make things on demand so you'll be clothed. Treat yourself well.

Then, when you look good, and you feel better, start sewing these pieces again. See if you can do something with the fabrics that suits the weight and feel of the fabric.

I went years not buying and mostly not sewing - money went to kids and bills, and I didn't look so good, and felt even worse. I know now I could have gotten myself some things that made me feel better about myself and then sewed as well, and we wouldn't have been starving if I had.

Good luck, feel better, and know that a lot of us have been there.
Michele

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Date: 3/3/09 8:09 PM

Please give yourself some hugs from all of us who have been there. I too have gained considerable weight from medication and have had to adjust my "body image." I tried a SWAP too, and it was just too ambitious a project for me at the time. Try just doing one thing at a time that "calls to you," and develop some TNT's. I've certainly had my own share of wadders as have others here, so stop beating yourself up. Just think of all you've learned. If you want to check to see if a style suits you, just do a little free "snoop shopping" first. Good luck and hang in there.

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