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Date: 2/18/10 8:49 PM

I joined this group and for a giggle, took a look at some of the comments. Several of them mentioned breastfeeding in fabric stores. Somehow that made me really happy.

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Date: 2/18/10 10:49 PM

If I'm going to hit a fabric store while I'm out doing errands - and let's face it, I am - then I always try to time it to when the small human will want to nurse. It's totally an ideal place for it - they've got chairs and pattern books.

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Date: 2/19/10 3:51 AM

A young woman at Glamourshots told me to take my newborn infant into the public restroom to feed him. I asked her if she eats in there and, if not, why not?

My son would not nurse when there were things going on around him, so this didn't affect me much anyway. I had to take him to a quiet place away from others usually. Though, I did nurse him on a plane, after informing my young male seatmate when he first sat down that that was going to happen. I had plenty of privacy because he changed seats. Was my son supposed to go hungry otherwise?

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Date: 2/19/10 6:46 AM

What I find insulting is the hypocrisy of it all. If one can't stand a breastfeeding mother, then don't go to the beach where you'll find women in skimpy bikinis, thong bikini bottoms, etc.

Someone commented on my blog the other day (deleted, of course) that I had "way too much info...belong in a porn movie" from my lingerie set. Um, it covers more than most bikinis. And it's for a CONTEST.

I used to nurse anywhere and everywhere--with a nursing bib. No one could see anything, but I'm sure the mere "idea" of me nursing was offensive to some people. Gee, what do they think the purpose of having boobs is? Didn't they study Anatomy? Or at least the basic reproductive process?

I always told my husband that if someone tried to force me to move, they'd have to call the police to take me away because I wasn't budging. Nursing isn't a privilege, it's a basic physiological need for a baby and all mothers have the right to do it.

I'll get off my soapbox now. But ya know, affordable health care starts with breastfeeding.

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Date: 2/19/10 7:51 AM

Breastfeeding is totally normal. Babies need the best start in life.

As for the "offended" people. Well - they need a reality adjustment. There are millions of things to be offended about in this world and breastfeeding is not one of them.

I never felt the need to cover up or move on when people "politely" told me where to go to feed my baby.

Although, once I thought about moving, when I was in a museum and the curator asked me if I wanted to go to the mothers' room because I was sitting right in front of the security cameras and I was being watched. Now - I didn't care about feeding but the thought of me being on security footage wasn't very warming, but nevertheless, baby and I were comfy so I stayed put.

Thank goodness I had friends and family that supported breastfeeding so it was perfectly natural and normal to feed a baby.

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Date: 2/19/10 10:18 AM

I take the opposite view on this. I don't understand why mothers need to do this in public. Had I breastfeed my child I would have never done it n a public area where the general public could see me. No there isn't anything wrong with it. But to me it would have been a very personal thing. I know there are some circumstances where you might not have a choice. For instance a museum. where you may have parked quite a bit away. But in most cases if you are out shopping why not just go sit in your car? Or do your shopping around the feeding schedule. It's almost becoming like the sahm mom thing, if you not willing to breastfeed in public then something is wrong with you and that's just stupid.At my previous job we have a manager who happened to be the owner's daughter. She brought her kid to work every day and one time while we were having a seminar about our new computer systems she sat there and breastfeed her kid right in the front in front of the speaker who was male and who was clearly uncomfortable as he had a right to be on one wouldn't expect that circumstance in that situation ,as were several eomployees and I was sitting right next to her. I couldn't believe that, was not the time or place. I don't believe in bringing your children to work anyway. She could only do it cos she was the owners daughter. Not of the rest of us could have.
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Date: 2/19/10 11:15 AM

Babies (especially young ones) tend to eat often. I usually tried to plan my outings to minimizing nursing in public (just because it was easier that way). However, it's not always possible. Unless I never left the house when the babies were young -- and that really wouldn't be fair to the older kids! Sorry, no life for you, I have to feed your sibling! We can start doing thing again in about a year.

I still remember being a terrified new mother, getting the most disgusted looks from several women while feeding my week old baby at the mall (under a blanket). It still makes me cry to this day, and it was 12 years ago. I honestly didn't go out again much for months since I knew I would have to feed my daughter and I just couldn't deal with the negativity. I didn't make it much longer with the nursing either.

I honestly don't see why people get so upset about seeing a baby nursing. People see others eating everyday. Nobody bats an eye lash. People see babies eating from bottles. Again, no eye lashes are batted. But a baby is fed the way babies have been fed since the dawn of time (or at least the dawn of mammals) and suddenly it should be kept hidden? I really don't get it.

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Date: 2/19/10 11:34 AM

You guys are making me realize just how lucky I've been. I've nursed my daughter in public many times, sometimes under a cover, sometimes not. Nobody even looked twice, except for the time we were at the auto show and I picked a quiet corner near the bathrooms. DH got me a chair and I sat with my back to the public and the stroller behind me. DH said that people would look over and when they realized what I was doing, they'd look away REALLY quickly. LOL! I've nursed in broad daylight, outside at the zoo with no cover and nobody even paid attention.

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Date: 2/19/10 11:34 AM

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What I find insulting is the hypocrisy of it all. If one can't stand a breastfeeding mother, then don't go to the beach where you'll find women in skimpy bikinis, thong bikini bottoms, etc.

Isnt' that the truth! You don't see teenagers getting asked to leave for having their rears showing from sagging jeans, super low rise jeans or even a female of any age for showing clevage. Only when clevage is doing the job nature intended are we being rude.

I regret running off into a public restroom when I had to nurse my first child. The only friend that attempted to breastfeed had done the same thing so I thought that's what you were suppose to do. Even my mom would rush me into a bedroom when I went home for a visit. I'm so glad I wised up for my second child.

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Date: 2/19/10 11:47 AM

I personally love it when people compare it to other bodily functions - because last I checked, babies do those in public too! In a diaper, sure, but the point is they are BABIES and don't have a concept of waiting, or holding it, etc.

Personally I prefer to BF in a quieter place with privacy, but fact is it is a mother's right to feed her baby in ANY place that they have the right to otherwise be.

It is not at all hard to simply avert your eyes, if you don't want to see it.

Years ago I saw a post on another board from someone who was upset that their 8 year old saw some lady breastfeeding and subsequently asked, "mom, why is the baby licking that lady's boob?"

That baffled me. How on earth does a kid get to age 8 without knowing that mammals have mammary glands with which they can feed their young? Even if he hasn't been around breastfeeding in person, how has he not been informed of this basic biological fact?

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