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bettimon

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Date: 5/4/11 8:12 PM

I have a matronly '30s shaped body. busty; thicker, short waist; less in the hip area, but what I have is kind of high up, making the waist area even shorter. I am also kind of on the short side, which makes those elongating tunic kind of things make me look squat.

I go through periods where I lose 20 lbs, and things look a little better, and then I just gain those 20 lbs right back. I need to come to terms with the body I have now, but I lack the imagination to figure out what will make it look better. I have tried a lot of the "how to figure out your figure" things, but mine doesn't seem to match any of them very well--or at least the suggestions are not working for me.

This is preventing me from doing a lot of the sewing I would like to. I just think "what's the use? it's going to look dumpy anyway." It's not that I can't accept that I'm plump, it's just that I don't want to look like a grandma yet. Grandmas are great, but I'm only 42! Not that there aren't sexy grandmas, mind you. I'm just thinking of my personal grandma, who though I loved her dearly, was not a style icon.

I see a lot of plus-sized women who look GREAT! They know how to dress, and look stylish and sexy. HOW DO YA'LL DO IT?

Can anyone help? I basically have no clothes, because I can't deal with trying to figure this out.

or maybe you all could suggest an appropriate "I give up" outfit?

-- Edited on 5/4/11 8:14 PM --
-- Edited on 5/4/11 8:17 PM --

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Date: 5/4/11 8:25 PM

BTW: if you have seen my one pattern review, i was 20 lbs lighter then.

my measurements now: 38 high bust, 42 bust, 35 waist, 41 hips. I know it's hard to tell much from measurements, but that's what they are, anyway. Also, my thinnest part of my midriff is so high up that it is overwhelmed by the shadow of my bazooms. it's like a sad little cottage at the foot of the alps.

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Date: 5/4/11 8:56 PM

I checked out your review . I think your top looks very nice on you. Is it possible that you are being too critical of yourself. You sew very well. I suggest that you sew what you "think" will look nice on you without analizing it and see what happens. I am speaking to myself as well

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Date: 5/4/11 9:04 PM

I only saw the one review with a pic but you know the first thing that struck me was that beautiful long neck and strong shoulder line that you have. Wow! You could do a lot to draw the eye to that area - the neckline on the top in the photo is a good example. Also, if the slimmest part of your torso is high, use that to your advantage as well with midriff empire cuts - not strict empire because that would likely over-emphasize the bust - but a midriff band of about 1.5 - 2" on tops that sits down a bit below the empire. It would lengthen the lower parts of you, highlight the slimmest part, and with a fabulous necline, draw attention to the shoulder and neck area. Just some ideas FWIW,

Gayle

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Date: 5/4/11 9:13 PM

thanks so much, Glenda. Alas, those shirts don't even come close to fitting me anymore.

I am perhaps being a bit hard on myself, but I know I really do look frumpy. I've seen photographic evidence.

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Date: 5/4/11 9:19 PM

thank you! my neck is kind of stretched trying to see the camera. it's not really so long sometimes a photo works to your advantage, and sometimes it really, really, really, doesn't. like a lot of the photos i've seen of myself lately!



thank you so much for the advice. I will look through my pattern stash to see if I can find anything appropriate, and whip up a quick muslin! I think I have a blouse pattern that would work. I hope I didn't give it away :(

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Date: 5/4/11 9:56 PM

I call it the tadpole body shape - and as for not being able to match up your body shape with the "types" in books, I'm totally with you.

What helped me was to consider not only my horizontal body shape (which bits of me stick out widest when viewed from the front!) but also my vertical body shape (from head to heel, where do key "points" like bust/waist/hips fall?).

What really turned the key for me was figuring out that I have a "short mid-body". Even though my waist level is "balanced", falling at half my height, the clothes recommended for this figure type never looked good on me. That's because my bust doesn't fall midway between head and waist...longer neck, nice shoulders, yep, but short between bust and waist.

Same thing downstairs...long calves, short thighs. Makes it easy to look frumpy in pants...but it might also mean that you can wear your skirts a tad longer than the usually recommended "knee-length" and get away with it.

This person describes a similar voyage of discovery!
http://communingwithfabric.blogspot.com/2010/05/report-center-for-pattern-design.html

Here's a quickie explanation...and I think the most telling thing is whether a thin belt at the waist or a wide belt slung in a V from the hips looks better on you.
http://www.bespokeimage.com.au/labels/Body%20Proportions%20Explained.html

And more detail
http://www.my-virtual-makeover.com/vertical-body-type-waist.html
http://www.style-makeover-hq.com/body-shape.html#vertical%20body%20shape

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Date: 5/4/11 10:12 PM

As someone who has been every size between a 6 and a 20 in her adult life, I can tell you that it doesn't matter what weight you are--your body shape is still your body shape! I will ALWAYS be curvy, whether I'm an 8 or a 14.

So I say stick with the same styles and shapes that flattered you when you were smaller--just make/get them in the size you are now! They'll still be just as flattering on your current body, if they fit you properly.

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~Gem in the prairie

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Date: 5/4/11 10:14 PM

oh, how awesome! that post has so much helpful info!

and YES! TOTALLY TADPOLE!

thank you very, very much!

apparently, I can't stop with the exclamation point!

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Date: 5/4/11 10:16 PM

Quote: stirwatersblue
As someone who has been every size between a 6 and a 20 in her adult life, I can tell you that it doesn't matter what weight you are--your body shape is still your body shape! I will ALWAYS be curvy, whether I'm an 8 or a 14.



So I say stick with the same styles and shapes that flattered you when you were smaller--just make/get them in the size you are now! They'll still be just as flattering on your current body, if they fit you properly.

This is great advice...I have gained a lot of weight over the years, but my body type has basically remained the same. Just more of it!
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