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people leasing my horse didn't follow rules
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Date: 6/28/11 7:31 PM

This afternoon I got a call from the owner of the barn where Woodrow is boarded. She said the girl (A) with the partial lease on my horse was riding in the yard, without a helmet, with no supervision. She knows better than to ride with no helmet-she is my riding student. *I* always wear a helmet. Not riding in the arena is my fault-I let her ride in the yard/lot a few days ago. No supervision is mom's lack of follow up. She had her college son take A to the barn, but he left her there and ran an errand.

I cannot tell you how pissed I am. This is beyond irresponsible on everyone's part. My horse is an ex race horse (endurance) and is Arab/Standardbred...he is hot. He reacts quickly to things and is not laid back. He might be 21 years old but he is still 1000 lbs of reaction.

I called the mom and told her what was up. She contacted her son, and the barn owner. But the damage is done-I have less trust, and now I have to decide how to deal with my student, with the mom, and make this right with the owner.

The serenity prayer is not working right now.

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Date: 6/28/11 7:39 PM

A 21 year old horse has LOTS of spit & fire left. Not surprising you are upset & concerned.

The Mom sounds like she is reacting properly, which is good, by contacting both her son & the barn owner. So this might be some 'learning pains'. At least, you can certainly hope that is the case.

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Date: 6/28/11 8:11 PM

I am so sorry to hear that your student endangered herself and Woodrow. I am glad that you are being proactive about addressing it and that her mother is taking it seriously. Best of luck in dealing with the situation.

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Date: 6/28/11 10:44 PM

Thanks Anne and Trena, Your comments made it easier for me to take a breath and think. I was able to drive over to the student's house and talk to Mom. It took 2 conversations to "bleed off" the rationalizations but finally we were able to agree on:
1. helmet at all times
2. ride in the arena only
3. ride with adult supervision, meaning Mom

A was at gymnastics, but she came home as we were talking. We three were able to discuss what happened calmly and tell A the conditions. She will also go out to the barn tomorrow to apologize to the barn owner, and she will be cleaning my tack after our next lesson (she also left my tack out, I heard).

I want to impress safety on her but not scare her. She'll get that lesson on her own as she progresses and overfaces herself, as we all have in athletics.

Thanks!! I feel better.

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Date: 6/28/11 11:04 PM

We had a couple of retired racehorse mares for a while; one of the scariest things that I ever experienced was when one of them decided to take a relatively inexperienced rider (one of my daughter's friends) for a full-out gallop down the gravel road one day. She screamed bloody murder but managed to hang on until the horse threw her into a pile of gravel. Talk about scared.... (And yes, she was okay, but what a horrible experience for all.)

Race horses love to run. And they never forget.

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Date: 6/29/11 0:29 AM

Racehorses...reminds me of a horse that I was allowed to ride as a teenager. A tall retired pacer. When everyone else broke out into a gallop, he would revert to pacing - ouch!

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Date: 6/29/11 9:08 AM

Wow! I feel your anger. Arabians are very high spirited, no matter the age, and a former racehorse ups that even more. My sister had a quarter horse racehorse and even at 14, that horse could still barrel race.

I had an unusual thought of how to get her to be more cognizant. Sometimes people need visual tools, especially younger adults. Ask me how I know this... And I think a picture of Christopher Reeves, before and after, with a caption that reads "This is why safety is important" near your horse's stall might help.

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Date: 6/29/11 9:54 AM

Good idea, and similar to my first thought yesterday. Before going to see the Mom, I actually printed out some photos of myself after my horrific accident with Woodrow. Long story, but he and I parted ways in a spectacular crash during an endurance race and that is why we are both retired from racing. I showed them to the Mom, but chose not to show A. when she came home.

I think the boarder's tack room needs to have a rule list posted prominently. I'll talk to the owner this morning.

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Date: 6/29/11 2:37 PM

I had a thoroughbred, grandson of Man O War, and know what high strung is......eeeeek! Could you put a "rule" placard on his stable door and then say "owner does not assume any risks". Do you have a contract with people who are renting your horse? I would just be concerned with liability. Horseback riding is inherently dangerous and no one wants to assume any risks...it is always someone else's fault these days.

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Date: 6/29/11 8:45 PM

marec - your reaction & the way you dealt with this just confirms my respect and admiration for what I know about you as a person. Well done on all fronts. :)

A little story. Wearing a helmet, practicing safe riding habits, all that stuff, was simply not a part of my reality as a teen. Friends of mine had several horses, including a retired thoroughbred (The Black - that was his name), and whenever we went out for a joyride, The Black was usually mine. A couple of times I lost control of him, & when he started really running, it was all over. He stopped when he wanted to. Memorable.

He eventually tripped, fell, broke his leg, & had to be put down. I'm just beyond thankful that it wasn't me riding him when it happened!!!

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