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Message Board > Plus Size Sewing > My Size and Age Need Flattering Threads--Not Quilting Guilt ( Moderated by JEF)

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My Size and Age Need Flattering Threads--Not Quilting Guilt
Feel NEED to choose between flattering fashion and quilting
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Date: 2/28/12 8:22 PM

It seems I am trying to ride 2 horses at same time--fashion sewing for mature and plus size for myself, vs quilting groups with ladies I like--if I'm around quilters I am saddened by lack of quilting time/money---I feel like I should choose plus size sewing and quit trying to sew everything from quilting to home dec to gifts==makes me cranky when I feel pressured by myself. Anyone else struggle with this?

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Date: 2/28/12 8:28 PM

I definitely need to be sewing clothes since rtw just looks frumpy. I used to quilt but seem to have lost my interest somewhere along the way.

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Date: 2/28/12 8:36 PM

I sometimes get this way about the sewing/everything else conundrum. How about very small quilting projects that will tie in with your fashion sewing? Totes, quilted pocket details, tiny quilt button covers; anything to keep you with your friends. Throw in some small quilted gifts for your own pleasure.

And, surely, your pals wouldn't mind if you brought handwork other than quilting? There are always buttons to afix and hems to stitch.

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Date: 2/28/12 9:15 PM

Oh yea! I sew garments occasionally but I still am not versed enough to get the fitting right. I need to learn some solid techniques so I can do more. I go back and forth between these worlds of garments and quilts but if I don't sew a garment for a couple of years, it is OK. Maybe because I do find basic RTW clothes that work for me. I don't have the kind of job were I need to worry about a wardrobe... I wear a uniform. But I do need nice clothes for those occassions...

Last year I took a PR Jeans class and came out with a nice pair of jeans I can make again and again for myself. But because I did, I lost time when it came to finishing a quilt I had planned to enter into a show, I will show it this year but I was kicking myself feeling that there needs to be some balance. and have not enrolled in anymore classes I know would benefit me.

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Date: 2/28/12 9:22 PM

It's all sewing you know. That's how I was brought up - you had a sewing machine and you did whatever with it.I know that's not endemic in the culture now - and then I too have felt guilt - even about buying something when I do have a sewing machine. I have said this before, so please excuse it one more time - lose the guilt now, don't wait until your 50s to lose it - lose it young while you can enjoy the rest it gives your mind. Do what you want to do and don't start a lot of things and leave them unfinished because you get frustrated. Just start something and maybe something else, and then get whatever you can done - I usually have a couple things in the works, and it can take me a few years to do them, but I trudge along, life has other things it wants me to pay attention to as well, and so on, but if sewing mad/or quilting make you happy, then do it at your own pace!It's fun, it's a hobby, it *IS* useful but it does not have to be.

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Date: 2/28/12 9:51 PM

I hear you with the money part - I eat crap food and decided to give up the car and driving to free up more money to buy sewing machines!

One way I save tons of money making quilts is to use 100% recycled fabrics and old blankets as battings. Used clothes are cheap!

I want to learn how to make more clothes - but, the mens section of the pattern books is skimpy and full of turd clothes. Id rather buy used clothes to wear instead of waste my time making things I hate. In order for me to sew clothes I think I would have to learn how to design patterns.

Im so new at quilting (1 year) that Im still learning to do that!

Ive given up on lots of odd things to spend more time sewing - like half my house - to tables, machines and stash! My house is a mess like its never been b-4 -- Im really crazy for quilting.

Quilting up a storm!

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Date: 2/28/12 9:52 PM

I think Muffet's post is very good. Go where the joy is! I try to avoid deadlines that will cause me to put too much pressure on myself; I like deadlines that are gentle - just enough to urge me along. If you really love quilting and entering them in shows, then do it and forget about sewing for yourself and vice versa. Personally, I like to do some of this here and some of that there and am content at not achieving mastery at any one thing but getting rather good at a number of things.

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Date: 2/28/12 11:27 PM

I know what you mean about being around friends who make quilts while you are into sewing clothing. You can feel a little left out.
I joined the Am Sewing Quild and will start attending their meetings to meet people who are more into what I am doing now. Will see how that goes.


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Date: 2/29/12 1:40 AM

I used to quilt but I gave it up long ago. Even sold my quilting stash on ebay! I finally realised that I couldn't do it all...something had to give. I had scrapbooking stash, needlework stash, quilting stash and garment sewing stash. I decided to give up the quilting. After all, how many quilts for beds can one person need? I'm much happier now...there's more room for my other vices and I can concentrate on what I love.

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Date: 2/29/12 4:23 AM

Could the problem be WHAT you're trying to quilt? If I get roped into making/fixing a quilt for somebody else, it just worries at me and I don't enjoy it. I'm with the others - if your muse is telling you to sew clothes, then do it and take joy in it. You may find that if you can clear the guilt out of your mind and focus on the clothes, at some point you'll want to take that quilting pony out for a ride again.


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