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Date: 12/20/12 12:58 PM
I am a Christian. For all of my adult life, I have chosen not to participate in the obligatory (and therefore meaningless) gift giving, the rampant commercialism under the guise of religion, and the frantic stress of the holiday season. I practice my faith by giving generously, donating to charities, and volunteering my time throughout the year, not just around the winter solstice. It's so freeing and much more joyful. Just sayin'.
Member since 8/28/08
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Date: 12/20/12 1:08 PM
The Federal Government says only that Christmas shall be a national holiday. They don't put out any rules for how people spend that time, so we are free to choose.
What you are doing helps a lot of people, plus probably keeps your blood pressure down.
I'll bet that there are many more who would prefer to do things the way you do them, but would face "the look" from the relatives.
That's Gl = for Gloria, not G. I.
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Date: 12/20/12 1:16 PM
Pagan family happily celebrating the Solstice here. We celebrate by getting together with family and making goodies and decorations to share. It's too dark not to do something special! No extravaganza of consumerism required
Because this time of year is a slow one for our business and other folks also have it off for Christmas, we take advantage and do our out-of-town visiting around now. We usually celebrate the beginning of the Solstice (the 21st) at home with friends, then travel to my mom's to celebrate the end (the 25th).
Member since 10/26/03
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Date: 12/20/12 1:18 PM
Yes, about 19 years ago, when my Stressed-to-the-Max DH was an airline captain & our DS w/undiagnosed Autism was umm....difficult....
We were trying to get the Christmas cards done when he was briefly home during the busy holiday flying season, dealing with dark & dangerous Minnesota winter...well, he lost it & I said "you know what, we Don't Have To Do This if we don't want to". So we stopped.
It was hard for DH to get over the guilt of not doing what everyone else was doing. I decided right away I didn't have to feel guilty if other people's expectations weren't met.
I send Easter cards instead to keep in touch with faraway friends.
When our son w/Down Syndrome was born, it became even more essential to celebrate in a low key, meaningful way.
I don't feel Holiday stress. I feel Christmas JOY.
Good for you, recognizing what's truly important, and living it throughout the year!
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Member since 12/28/07
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Date: 12/20/12 2:11 PM
Its turning out to not be much in the way of festivities here this year.
But I noticed that our Thanksgiving day. in which we did not much at all was the nicest Thanksgiving. Not even a turkey was baked this year. Very relaxing.
Our children are now grown. which makes a big difference in what you no longer are expected to do at this time of year. Since they are older we mostly all go shopping and then out to dinner together.
Needless to say. my DHs idea of the most fabulous way to spend the holidays is watching football.
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Date: 12/20/12 2:15 PM
I quit doing Christmas cards umpteen years ago, and I still get a handful of them from scattered old friends. We do not exchange gifts, we do not put up a tree or lights, what a hassle taking them down!
My DH and I stay home for the entire week, we cook a big turkey dinner for the two of us (this year we will cook it this Saturday) put it in the fridge and munch on it for several days. Then we do the same thing with a ham dinner and that takes us through the new year. I usually make some fudge and that is all of the extras I do.
We are fortunate that his job takes that week off, so for us it is a wonderful winter break from it all. But I hate even having to go grocery shopping because there are just too many people out there doing the last minute stuff (we got everything we need for our dinner almost 2 weeks ago).
I have a doc appt the Friday after Christmas so we will have to venture out... but it will be a good time to stock up on anything we might be running out of. Other than that, I hope we do not have to go anywhere until Jan 2nd!
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Member since 3/27/07
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Date: 12/20/12 2:43 PM
We have no kids so we really don't do much at Christmas time. We don't give ourselves gifts either. With the new puppy, I didn't even get out any decorations. I actually am not a fan of Christmas. For the past 25 years, we have always lived far away and were always expected to drive no matter what the weather conditions were or how many hours my husband had to work, back to Ohio even though no one ever makes the effort to come to see us. We pretty much got fed up with it and we stay home. My husband's sister and her husband who live four hours away are the only ones that come and see us on a regular basis.
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Date: 12/20/12 4:03 PM
The economy forced us to greatly reduce gift giving several years ago. There are three adults living in our house now, and we found out that we enjoy just having down time from work to spend at home. I still like putting up my Santa Claus village and DH likes to put up some lights outside, but no other decorations.
DD looks forward to relaxing at home during the winter holiday/semester break from her job at a local college. This year, she has a new puppy, so Clara is taking up most of her extra time.
In our extended family, we have five new babies, so we are looking forward to enjoying Christmas Eve with some of them at my sister's house. I used to get really stressed out by Christmas, but I like the less stressed out kind much better.
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Date: 12/20/12 4:46 PM
This year I asked my dh if he didn't mind if we cancelled it this year. Our son is 20 and an atheist -- he likes "Giftmas". Generally all the holiday scut work falls to me with no help from anyone so I said screw it. No tree, no cards (I think I'll send some email cards to family). Money is tight. I have a niece and 2 nephews yet that are still in high school but I think I'll send them something in Spring or Summer. They will already get a bunch of gifts. I'm just not into it. My dh has a few days off but I have to work this coming weekend and plan to work the holiday day shift. The younger nurses have small children and I would rather they spend time with them creating their Christmas memories. I have Monday off and we plan to do our meal shopping and have a nice holiday meal and watch some movies. I'll give my son some cash. Even though my Dad died on Christmas 2006, I had still celebrated it in the years after so I don't know how to explain my total lack of enthusiasm for the holiday--it's just not there this year. I don't want more stuff and I don't want to go into debt buying other stuff for people who don't need it too. This is a made up holiday except for the Winter Solstice in which I plan to honor by lighting a candle to the darkness and maybe burning a Yule log overnight. Jesus was born in July. Plus right not I am very ambivalent regarding religions originating from the Middle East. Their violence really turns me off.
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Date: 12/20/12 9:57 PM
I still celebrate it, sort of. I celebrate the One whose official birthday it is, but I don't **celebrate** Christmas the way I used to. Sometimes I still get a tree -- in fact, someone gave me a beautiful one today that they happened to have left over from an event. It needed a home, I kind of wanted a tree, so that worked out.
But the joy of Christmas has mostly fizzled out over the years from being on my own too many Christmases and from not having enough money to do the gift thing the way I would like to. I suspect what many people love most is the gift-buying and gift-receiving. Take that away, and you find out if you really love Christmas or if you mostly just love the shopping/eating hoopla.
Although even when I'm on my own and nothing is really going on, the day still feels different from other days. Which is weird, because it doesn't AT ALL feel like Christmas is next week. Maybe when I put up that tree tomorrow, it will help a bit.
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