Member since 7/20/12
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Date: 12/23/13 7:23 PM
my husband and I sew together and he is very good. I am always shocked when I see other peoples reactions to the fact that he sews. One friend even said that is awkward when I told her we were taking classes together. One coworker even ask me if my husband was gay.
I have no problem what your orientation is, it does not affect my life in one way or another. why do people feel the right to ask such idiotic questions? why do you have to be gay to sew if you are a man? If you are gay why do people have to comment on it, really who cares? Seeing as I'm married to him i really did not find it relevant. why should it matter if you're gay or not? Do peoplereally think they're funny?
sorry, I think some people are just stupid, ignorant, backwards, etc.
Member since 7/17/13
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Subject: peoples reactions to men who sew Date: 12/23/13 7:50 PM
We recently had a scandal here in Australia, when a radio announcer (basically a left wing bigot with a microphone) who asked our Prime Minister if her husband was gay, based on the fact that he is a hairdresser. He is now fighting his dismissal from his job, on the grounds of it apparently being unfair.
I think its obvious that men would be great at sewing. Men are problem solvers, and inclined to appreciate the technical aspects of a project. I think thats the reason so many are designers.
I agree with you, people who apply the stereotypical attitude to men who sew, are ignorant. But, as long as we appreciate the reality, society will change eventually.
the barefoot seamstress ..... smelling vaguely of lavender and mothballs, and desperately craving chocolate.
Member since 4/19/11
In reply to JUNIPERJUNE
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Date: 12/23/13 8:17 PM
Ummm, yep. Unfortunately you're correct. Some people are just stupid, ignorant, backwards, etc. Thank goodness they appear to be in the minority.
You and your hubby should just keep on sewing together, enjoy the process, and ignore the comments. I sure would.
Member since 5/20/12
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Subject: peoples reactions to men who sew Date: 12/23/13 8:21 PM
My husband broke his foot and to keep him busy I taught him how to cross-stitch. Since then we have met male Drs. that cross-stitch for stress release. You shouldn't judge people anyway.
Member since 8/22/05
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Date: 12/23/13 8:36 PM
Apparently most people are not aware that most tailors are men. Such narrow-mindedness I could go on Any man who wants to sew, knit, etc. gets an A+ from me! I remember many years ago, a big to-do was made about the football player, Rosie Grier, doing needlepoint.
Member since 9/1/08
In reply to Datcat23
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Date: 12/23/13 9:08 PM
No, Howard Sattler was a very right-wing bigot with a microphone who asked Julia Gillard if her husband was gay. But I agree with everyone that there is no reason why men can't sew or knit or quilt, and do it well. And some of them will be gay, just like some will be heterosexual. What does it matter? We have very accomplished tailors, designers and sewists of both genders and have had so for a long time. It's not a new phenomenon. People who insist on clinging onto silly and inaccurate stereotypes are just being daft.
Member since 7/1/07
Skill: Advanced Beginner
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Date: 12/23/13 9:57 PM
My grandmother taught the 2 youngest boys how to do simple mending & button replacement before they left for WWll.
My husband said he always used to see men quilting when he would check out the quilts at gun shows in CA 15-20yrs ago.
I always see what appear to be very heterosexual men at my local (non-Joann's) fabric shop. They are usually in the upholstery area instead of clothing though.
My PT has a sewing machine & knows how to use it. He is very mechanically minded & was telling me about the work he has put into his very elderly (late 40's-early 50's) tiller for the garden.
Slightly off topic, historically, any weaving other than plain utilitarian weaving was done by a man. The fabric is always the beginning of sewing!
Member since 2/17/07
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Date: 12/23/13 10:20 PM
I have fun with some of the reactions. When at JoAnn's, it's common for the salespeople to think that I've been sent in to pick up some things for someone else, presumably female. They are always surprised and very pleased when I let them know that I'll be using this stuff myself. Always get extra attention and extra help, which I usually need!
On the very rare occasions that I've received a negative response, invariably from a male, I remind them of the many manly men who have been sailors, fishermen, parachutists, airmen, rocket men, and other occupations which require a familiarity with textiles.
I've never been asked if I was gay, but I think if that happened, I'd probably have to wink and say "Not usually, but maybe for you, big guy!" (Unless I thought that would get me punched out, that is.) Or possibly, 'Why no, but thanks so much for asking; it's so nice of you to be that interested!"
People sure are funny sometimes.
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A sewing machine is just a welder for textiles.
Member since 5/2/09
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Date: 12/23/13 11:18 PM
Or maybe, could they have just been jealous of you, that both you and your husband both had a skill and a hobby that you both enjoyed and even enjoyed taking a class on it together like that? I would not totally always rule that one out either.
Member since 10/30/10
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Date: 12/24/13 0:11 AM
My husband learned to sew long before I met him. Never have I heard a discouraging word about it; indeed many of my female friends are ready to fall worshiping at his feet because he also cooks and keeps house better than I do.
And he's mine- all mine! Bwahahahahahahahaha!
PS Our son sews, too, and makes a nice extra income from his leather goods.
-- Edited on 12/24/13 0:12 AM --
I've quit fighting my inner demons. We're on the same side now.
It's just fabric; we can out-think it.