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Date: 1/3/14 5:53 PM

I have a new co-worker who is in an office across the hall. She incessantly cracks and pops her gum. It's like nails on a chalkboard for me.

I don't know her well and I don't think she would take it well if I asked her to stop so I sit here and fume about it.

I think I'm going to bring in some speakers and play iTunes. Maybe that will help drown it out.

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Date: 1/3/14 5:57 PM

I hate that!!! If you let her continue, she will think it's acceptable. She is working around other people and needs to be aware that she is creating a bad working atmosphere. Can you tell the boss, or someone else in the office. An anonymous note maybe? You shouldn't have to be the one sitting there with headphones on, to accommodate her irritating habit.

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Date: 1/3/14 6:02 PM

Surely it's bad manners to chew gum at work. It's never been allowed where ever I've worked.

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Date: 1/3/14 6:02 PM

I can only offer sympathy, no solution. I used to have a coworker who crunched baby carrots all afternoon. I never came up with a way to address this

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Date: 1/3/14 6:09 PM

I'd go insane, that's all there is to it. I did once ask a co-worker to not chew his gum so aggressively.. he'd come in to discuss things and I couldn't think straight while he was chomping and popping. I think you should bite the bullet and ask her to chew more quietly.... you're within your rights to do that. Mentally rehearse a gentle way to do it, put it on yourself, not her (i.e., sorry to be so neurotic, but would you mind not popping your gum because I find it very distracting?) and even if it annoys her, she'll probably comply.

I also had to ask someone on a plane the same thing. It was a young man. he muttered and said rude things under his breathe about me for three hours... it was worth irritating him to have more peace on the flight.

ETA ps: I do ask gently and politely.... but admittedly people don't like being informed that their behavior is irritatingoh well
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Date: 1/3/14 6:11 PM

Aaaaack! That drives me wild!

It seems to me that you should not be the one having to adapt--at least not before you find out if there are any office policies regarding this kind of thing. Why not quietly have a meeting with your supervisor to discuss the problem?

Apropos of this--even though I doubt that most normal people could tolerate compulsive gum-popping--there is a fairly recently recognized medical condition called misophonia, a tendency to be driven almost literally nuts by some ordinary-seeming sounds.

I have it.



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Date: 1/3/14 6:19 PM

I really want to say something but I'm not sure if I should. I'm afraid it would really hinder our work relationship. She actually works for someone else but we kind of share some responsibilities.

Believe it or not, her office is about 30 feet from mine and I was able to record the popping/cracking on my phone for my DH to hear. It's THAT loud!

I might mention it to her boss....maybe.

I'm being a big ole' wimp about this.

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Date: 1/3/14 6:20 PM

wow, Elona, thx for posting that, I think I might have that too.

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Date: 1/3/14 6:35 PM

I don't chew gum a lot, but when I do, I do pop and crack a LOT. I think it is a weird holdover from trying to emulate my adored teenaged aunts when I was a kid. If I am chewing around other people I try very hard to not make any noise with it. I did grow up with a Grandmother - the auntie's mother - who proclaimed that a "gum chewing girl is like a cud chewing cow." I never figure out if boys were allowed to chew or not....

OTOH - I have worked with more than one person who chewed gum all the time. But I didn't know about it for literally years. They were obviously very discrete chewers!

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Date: 1/3/14 6:43 PM

Gum chewing in general doesn't bother me. I don't chew gum because I am a loud chewer myself.

It's just the constant cracking and popping that gets me. She was standing behind me one day as I was teaching her how to do something and popped it the whole time.

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