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Posted on: 12/11/09 5:20 PM ET
We are moving to a more expensive area and are there fore having to downsize our property due to lack of finances. The reasons for moving are valid and, we feel, right.
Our new house will probably be much smaller and we'll have to get rid of quite a bit of furniture that is fairly new etc.
I'm quite happy about it because the outcome of it will be happy in our circumstances I feel but DH is struggling a bit and I just wondered if any of you had been thru this kind of circumstance ?
Our new house will probably be much smaller and we'll have to get rid of quite a bit of furniture that is fairly new etc.
I'm quite happy about it because the outcome of it will be happy in our circumstances I feel but DH is struggling a bit and I just wondered if any of you had been thru this kind of circumstance ?
Posted on: 12/11/09 9:55 PM ET
In reply to Winifred
Oh yes! Absolutely! DH and I retired and moved across the country. Talk about downsizing! We had to get rid of stuff just to keep the moving bill low.
It's one of those things you have to look ahead and know that you're doing the right thing, even if those around you aren't too happy about it. Change comes harder, I think, for men than it does women.
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It's one of those things you have to look ahead and know that you're doing the right thing, even if those around you aren't too happy about it. Change comes harder, I think, for men than it does women.
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Posted on: 12/12/09 0:44 AM ET
Yup! When we moved from our townhouse in MD (about 2,000 sq ft) to an apartment in FL (1300 sq ft) about 8 years ago, we had to downsize a LOT. Even still, we ended up using a storage facility (which I HATED) for 7 years. Most of the stuff in storage, though, were DH's old Army paperwork from when he was a Company Commander. Those papers will NEVER get thrown away, I'm sure.
It's all kinda come full circle, though. We bought a 2500 sq ft home earlier this year (from a 1300 sq foot apartment) and ended up scrambling to have "enough" furniture to fill it up. Even still, we still have the weirdest (and most annoying) echo from all the still-empty space.
As for one wanting and one not wanting, we'd be the exact opposites. I was leaving my parents, to whom I've always been REALLY close ~ and I left knowing that they won't visit (neither travel at ALL, so it will be up to US to visit, which until recently, I couldn't due to health problems). Leaving broke my heart. And it still hurts. :(
But was it the RIGHT decision? Yup, I really think so. Though it's been a LOT of change, a LOT of heartbreak, it's meant a better quality of life AND a feeling of adventure. And that's what life is: an adventure.
I just don't think ANYONE ever just ups and moves cross country without a reason. And chances are, if it's a reason good enough to even make you *think* about moving that far, it's prolly a durned good reason ~ and one that you won't regret later.
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It's all kinda come full circle, though. We bought a 2500 sq ft home earlier this year (from a 1300 sq foot apartment) and ended up scrambling to have "enough" furniture to fill it up. Even still, we still have the weirdest (and most annoying) echo from all the still-empty space.
As for one wanting and one not wanting, we'd be the exact opposites. I was leaving my parents, to whom I've always been REALLY close ~ and I left knowing that they won't visit (neither travel at ALL, so it will be up to US to visit, which until recently, I couldn't due to health problems). Leaving broke my heart. And it still hurts. :(
But was it the RIGHT decision? Yup, I really think so. Though it's been a LOT of change, a LOT of heartbreak, it's meant a better quality of life AND a feeling of adventure. And that's what life is: an adventure.
I just don't think ANYONE ever just ups and moves cross country without a reason. And chances are, if it's a reason good enough to even make you *think* about moving that far, it's prolly a durned good reason ~ and one that you won't regret later.
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Connie in Panama City Beach, Florida :)
"And these children that you spit on, as they try to change their worlds, are immune to your consultations. They're quite aware of what they're going through" ~ David Bowie, "Changes"
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Posted on: 12/12/09 4:18 AM ET
I downsized when I moved from New Zealand back to the Netherlands Actually more like twice in 6 months.
The first time was when I left my home that I'd shared with my XBF.
I only took what was mine, and of course this in only half of what was in the house.
When I moved from NZ to the Netherlands, 6 months later, to keep the cost of moving down I had to downsize a lot. In the end I got it down to 9 boxes and a suitcase Less than one cubic metre.
I made some gut wrenching decisions in the process.
I made four piles both in my mind and in my head.
1. Has to come because I need it or because the sentimental value is too great to loose/is irreplaceable
2. Really would like to take this but would part with it if needed
3. If I have space left over I'd want to bring this.
4. Gotta go, is easy to replace and will be able to do without.
I sold the salable stuff. I gave away loved stuff that I did not want or could bring as tokens of affection and remembrance to friends For instance I had a wrought iron candle holder that I adored but could nto bring I knew a friend loved it too but could never afford it. Now she has it in her lounge and tells me it is her little piece of me, that always makes her think of me.
It was hard. At one stage my sewing machine (for 10 minutes) was in pile 3. In the end it was in pile 2. I also thought up different ways to pack For instance I used my stash to pack things into instead of paper. Sure it took a little bit more space but it served a purpose and I did not have to part with my well loved and maintained stash.
But you know what the weirdest thing was? When the stuff arrived, 2 months later, and I was unpacking I threw away just about everything that I had been able to bring from pile 3.
Gilraen
-- Edited on 12/12/09 4:21 AM --
The first time was when I left my home that I'd shared with my XBF.
I only took what was mine, and of course this in only half of what was in the house.
When I moved from NZ to the Netherlands, 6 months later, to keep the cost of moving down I had to downsize a lot. In the end I got it down to 9 boxes and a suitcase Less than one cubic metre.
I made some gut wrenching decisions in the process.
I made four piles both in my mind and in my head.
1. Has to come because I need it or because the sentimental value is too great to loose/is irreplaceable
2. Really would like to take this but would part with it if needed
3. If I have space left over I'd want to bring this.
4. Gotta go, is easy to replace and will be able to do without.
I sold the salable stuff. I gave away loved stuff that I did not want or could bring as tokens of affection and remembrance to friends For instance I had a wrought iron candle holder that I adored but could nto bring I knew a friend loved it too but could never afford it. Now she has it in her lounge and tells me it is her little piece of me, that always makes her think of me.
It was hard. At one stage my sewing machine (for 10 minutes) was in pile 3. In the end it was in pile 2. I also thought up different ways to pack For instance I used my stash to pack things into instead of paper. Sure it took a little bit more space but it served a purpose and I did not have to part with my well loved and maintained stash.
But you know what the weirdest thing was? When the stuff arrived, 2 months later, and I was unpacking I threw away just about everything that I had been able to bring from pile 3.
Gilraen
-- Edited on 12/12/09 4:21 AM --
Posted on: 12/13/09 2:10 PM ET
I'm almost finished the process of moving my elderly aunt from her 2 bedroom apartment (and her mother's empty apartment upstairs and full basement) into a 550 square foot apartment in a seniors apartment complex. Talk about trauma! She's been in that apt. for 25 years, her mother was there for 35, and the accumulation of the ages went with them all.
Trying to get her to categorize stuff - throw away, donate, keep, must keep or life won't go on - didn't work at all. Everything had to be kept or life wouldn't go on. I got rid of bags and bags of stuff when she wasn't looking and we still had to take masses of stuff back from the NEW apt to the OLD one, where I will eventually have to sort it out and get rid of it anyway.
It's a trying process at the best of times. Everyone handles it differently, but I know that every time I come home from my aunt's, I go through some box or closet and get rid of a few things, just because I still can.
Good luck with your move. Once you're settled, it will be great.
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Trying to get her to categorize stuff - throw away, donate, keep, must keep or life won't go on - didn't work at all. Everything had to be kept or life wouldn't go on. I got rid of bags and bags of stuff when she wasn't looking and we still had to take masses of stuff back from the NEW apt to the OLD one, where I will eventually have to sort it out and get rid of it anyway.
It's a trying process at the best of times. Everyone handles it differently, but I know that every time I come home from my aunt's, I go through some box or closet and get rid of a few things, just because I still can.
Good luck with your move. Once you're settled, it will be great.
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Karen
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