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Posted on: 8/19/11 4:47 PM ET
Why is that statement so true? Aren't we supposed to do good deeds? 
Well, I guess I'll keep getting punished then.

Well, I guess I'll keep getting punished then.
Posted on: 8/19/11 5:15 PM ET
Seems I am a glutton for punishment too. Go figure!
Posted on: 8/19/11 5:43 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
I'm guessing there's a story here?
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my shield and my very great reward ~ Gen. 15:1
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If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. ~ Albert Einstein
People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be, not what you nag them to be. ~ Scudder N. Parker
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If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. ~ Albert Einstein
People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be, not what you nag them to be. ~ Scudder N. Parker
Posted on: 8/19/11 6:40 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
Chemo for Mom?
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Currently working on a boys quilt. Sized 40 x 40 inches. It has chickens, chicken eggs, cows, fish, sea life, afield with water, Dachshunds, mini sailboats, and many colorful other fabrics. The blocks are a 4 x 4 finished size, so many of them are needed.
This my 4th quilt in 7 months.
Bernina 630, Bernina embroidery module, Pfaff 2036, Bernina 1200DA serger, Unique Sewing Cabinet 450L
Gardening info: zone 8 standard map and zone 6 Sunset map
This my 4th quilt in 7 months.
Bernina 630, Bernina embroidery module, Pfaff 2036, Bernina 1200DA serger, Unique Sewing Cabinet 450L
Gardening info: zone 8 standard map and zone 6 Sunset map
Posted on: 8/19/11 6:54 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
Always, without fail!
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"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem." Theodore Rubin
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life's about creating yourself." George Bernard Shaw
Brand preferences Bernina and Babylock
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life's about creating yourself." George Bernard Shaw
Brand preferences Bernina and Babylock
Posted on: 8/20/11 2:16 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
True saying when no limits are stated and upheld.
Be clear when making a commitment.
Don't be a door mat.
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Be clear when making a commitment.
Don't be a door mat.
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OLD CHINESE PROVERB: I HEAR & I FORGET; I SEE & I REMEMBER; I DO & I UNDERSTAND.
Posted on: 8/20/11 4:23 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
Well darn it.. I tried to do a good dead today.. and clean up my sewing room.. Then accidently unplugged my router and serger strip from the wall. You know .. that outlet that is behind a six X three foot L shaped solid mahogany desk.. that takes three men to move..
I should have listened more closely to Frankdottir.. and forgot about cleaning altogether..
I will say after being kept off the computer for most of the day.. a whole lotta stuff got done around here..
And thats my no good deed goes unpunished story..

Yep.. being bad is better..
Posted on: 8/23/11 1:24 PM ET
PPLG - I was eating lunch when I read your post and almost choked! "being bad is better" LOL
Maybe I'm confused but I thought a Christian is supposed to help others? If so, then why is it so complicated?
My story? There's so many. I'll think about it and get back to you (which ones are the most interesting). One time though, I was going to a restaurant and saw my coworkers at a table so I just went to sit with them. It wasn't actually like I was doing a good deed, but I thought it would be rude not to sit with them instead of sitting at a table by myself. My boss happened to be the one I sat next too and she turned to me and said, "I'm sorry Valerie, but we're having a meeting." OMG I was so embarrassed. I left not only the table but the restaurant (of course got some food but didn't want to eat it there).
Many stories regarding work and helping someone and they got the promotions (no one else knew I was helping them and why should they because I don't go around announcing stuff like that).
Or trying to calm an argument (neighbors) and they both ended up not speaking to me. All I was trying to do is make peace. Never did that again.
Those are the stories that come to mind right now. I'll think about it.
Maybe I'm confused but I thought a Christian is supposed to help others? If so, then why is it so complicated?
My story? There's so many. I'll think about it and get back to you (which ones are the most interesting). One time though, I was going to a restaurant and saw my coworkers at a table so I just went to sit with them. It wasn't actually like I was doing a good deed, but I thought it would be rude not to sit with them instead of sitting at a table by myself. My boss happened to be the one I sat next too and she turned to me and said, "I'm sorry Valerie, but we're having a meeting." OMG I was so embarrassed. I left not only the table but the restaurant (of course got some food but didn't want to eat it there).
Many stories regarding work and helping someone and they got the promotions (no one else knew I was helping them and why should they because I don't go around announcing stuff like that).
Or trying to calm an argument (neighbors) and they both ended up not speaking to me. All I was trying to do is make peace. Never did that again.
Those are the stories that come to mind right now. I'll think about it.
Posted on: 8/23/11 1:49 PM ET
In reply to Valerie Jo
Valerie. I understand where you may be confused.. But you know.. I watch a lot of Joyce Meyers.. a well known lady TV minister.. she inspires me to be a better person.. And she has spoken often in her sermons about Minding your own business.. and not being nosy.. etc.
I have to say to myself more often than I like to admit.. Mind my Own Business.. Less my little flat nose gets cut right off my face.. The less you get involved.. the less you will get hurt by your involvement. Its human nature to step forward.. but often we simply are neither wanted nor needed. In fact I have gotten so good at not getting involved , that now I have learned to completely back off.. and well. not get involved..
Theres that old saying.. I don't have a dog in this fight.. In other words if it does not concern me.. I stay outta it..
Helping as a Christian means helping when you are asked.. not when others drag you into their problems.. As you mature you will find all the right things to say in certain situations that will serve you well...
For instance. when asked if you can bake 200 dozen cookies for the school.. If you can. well great. but if not.. Then just say..
'' I really wish I could. but I cannot '' DON'T ever give a reason why not.. or they will try to use your reasoning against you.. For instance if you say you are busy that week.. they might then tell you to bake ahead of time.. If they persist upon asking why not. simply state for personal reasons you cannot share at this time..
You can and you will simply make yourself ill if you try to be everything to everybody. And then you won't be able to even take care of yourself..
If you do find yourself in an awkward position.. such as what happened at the restaurant.. do get up and walk away.. You can later approach your boss or whoever and apologize. Simply state that you felt you would insult them by not joining them.. and you know in hindsight that you must not have thought it thru.. Which is true.. Who knows had you not joined them they later would have said that very thing..
Go to the library.. check out a few books on manners.. I love Ms Manners although some do not like her style. Basic good manners applied correctly can save you from a lot of embarrassing moments.
So what would I have said at the time you would told they were having a meeting. Well the truth of course. . ''I definitely don't want to work through my lunch hour so I am outta here..lol ''
Honesty.. Its ALWAYS the best policy.. if you have a good heart. To be brutally honest is not always a good idea if you are having a bad day.. Use your best judgement..
Posted on: 8/23/11 3:38 PM ET
I completely understand PPLG. The neighbor deal I was in the middle and didn't get nosy or jump in. I was already in there just trying to calm the waves because I was in the middle.
The other instances I mentioned work related were because they came to me and asked questions or for help. So, I helped if I could.
I have learned to say no as well. That took awhile but I feel so good about it (relieved) after I do it. Yes, if I have the energy and time AND I want to I will.
I avoid everything else if I can. It's pretty cut and dry. I do not force myself into anyone's affairs or life in general. I will think of some more stories.
The other instances I mentioned work related were because they came to me and asked questions or for help. So, I helped if I could.
I have learned to say no as well. That took awhile but I feel so good about it (relieved) after I do it. Yes, if I have the energy and time AND I want to I will.
I avoid everything else if I can. It's pretty cut and dry. I do not force myself into anyone's affairs or life in general. I will think of some more stories.
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