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Posted on: 3/26/13 1:07 PM ET
Who needs revenge when there's karma? Whenever someone does something mean or evil to me, I just sit back and watch. What happens is they get it 3 times worse. I don't have to do anything. I don't necessarily want harm done to other people BUT I sure hope they learn their lesson (to spare others). I have tried to warn them but without success. Has anyone else had/have this experience?

  
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Posted on: 3/26/13 1:38 PM ET
Yes and no.

People that are likely to be mean and evil to you continue to do it to others. Like everything else, someone is always meaner and bigger then they are so they wind up "getting it" in the end.

And people like that are unhappy IMO. They put out negative energy and that's what they get back.

Some people don't think of themselves as being like this, or have a personality that is too much about me, me, me to understand it, so those types don't usually see it as "karma" getting them in the end. Others have something huge happen (fire, jail, etc.) that it is always someone else's fault. Hard to see karma when the bully or victim mentality takes over.
  
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Posted on: 3/26/13 1:51 PM ET
I come from a teeny tiny hometown where everybody knows everyone. I was asked by someone I know very well about two women I went to high school with. I was very honest about my opinions on them, and the woman I liked was hired. Maybe not karma in the truest sense, but definitely a bit of what goes around comes around. Reasons to be nice to everyone....always :)
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Posted on: 3/26/13 1:58 PM ET
We create our own karma.

Unpleasant or thoughtless people create situations that kick back, frequently exponentially.

Conversely, kindness, humility, and generosity always " pay forward".
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Posted on: 3/27/13 5:50 PM ET
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Unpleasant or thoughtless people create situations that kick back, frequently exponentially.

Conversely, kindness, humility, and generosity always " pay forward".

Hmm, I don't think this is always true -- mean people often spend their whole lives mistreating others, and kind people often get repeatedly mistreated. Often there are no repercussions during the person's lifetime. Note that I said "during the person's lifetime."

That said, I think very few kind people would trade places with a mean person, even though mean people often end up climbing their way to the top of life's supposed "ladder."
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Posted on: 3/27/13 6:41 PM ET
Funny - I was just thinking today how my family, full of issues as families are, were not mean or manipulative, at least as far as I know. I had to learn through painful experience that people would repeat your secrets to others, back stab and be flagrantly malicious about all kinds of things - big and small. I won't stoop to their level and face it - I have no skills in the area! - but I have learned to answer some questions generally and even to withhold information from people who are not entitled to know it. I do love it when the meanies get their comeuppance!
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Posted on: 3/27/13 6:50 PM ET
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I agree Vintage Joan, & also don't think this is true. Read the bestselling book by the rabbi , I forget his name " When bad things happen to good people" is the title. It helped me deal with the "unfairness" one sees . And, my parents' home went up in flames and believe me they did nothing to warrant such a misfortune!
  
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Posted on: 3/27/13 8:16 PM ET
I've seen the Meanies get nasty badness meted out, time and time again. It stinks for the pleasant, kind, hardworking folks to have to deal with the the ugliness of full throttle Meanies, or the collateral damage. The Meanies never understand their role in the consequences.

Bad Things do happen to Good people....kindness and generosity do not protect one from falling in love with, trusting, or becoming victims to Meanies...or experiencing illness...or catastrophe. It's how you handle it that tests the character and shapes karma.



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Posted on: 3/28/13 0:19 AM ET
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I've seen the Meanies get nasty badness meted out, time and time again.

Example from the other side of this coin: a relative of mine by marriage demeaned everyone around him. For example, he would draw people into conversations, then go in for the kill. His kids grew up afraid of him, and when they grew up they had nothing to do with him for a couple of decades. His wife stayed with him, but she became toxic herself, in a passive-aggressive way. The rest of us just learned to have nothing to do with him -- he was dangerous. This of course further isolated his wife. He died 14-15 years ago -- from what I can tell, never even aware or concerned that he had deeply hurt and offended so many people. His mother was apparently even worse than he was, and seems to have died unrepentant as well. What consequences did these people suffer during their lives? They were bullies. It was other people who paid the consequences -- pretty severe consequences, at that.

I should probably add that I don't believe in karma. Sometimes during people's lifetimes they end up paying the consequences of things they've done, but often not.




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Posted on: 3/28/13 5:53 AM ET
Sometimes, revenge really isn't as dramatic or super satisfying as you think it's going to be.

I had a boss that tormented me every minute he spotted me and I despised him. Eventually, he got fired (shortly after an incident where he pulled a gun on his neighbor in Greenwich Ct), and I got a new job. One day, we were hiring and I spotted him as he went in to interview with someone. I didn't react at all, not even on the inside.

The guy he interviewed with bumped into me and said, "Hey, do you know this guy from when you worked at Flimly? What do you think of him?"

It barely took any effort at all to put the kabosh on him. I didn't jump up and down, venting all over the place. In fact, I said not a word. Just shook my head "No" -- once to left, once to the right.

And that be that.

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